Missing my Son , Anthony M Pignotti III

by Anthony M Pignotti Jr.
(Hoboken,New Jersey)

Anthony M Pignotti III

Anthony M Pignotti III

Anthony M Pignotti III
My Immeditate Family, Wife, Parents , sister and sons Christopher and Anthony III

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On November 26, 2010 my two sons were with me, their stepmom and both Grandparents in Hoboken, having a laugh together. It was the last i would see him alive. He went to visit his mother in Stanhope to have dinner for her birthday the next day. My youngest was home from his first semester at break from Johnson and Wales. He and his brother spent the week hanging out together. That night i got a call that he was having an asthma attack and the ems was there. When I got to the hospital, he had already passed. His lung had collapsed and it took 11 minutes for ems to get there. He was just 22 years young!

Since his death my whole family is arguing with each other. My son lived with his grandparents in Hoboken 4 blocks away. My mom has taken control of everything that has to do with him. On top of this horrific tragedy I am fighting with my mom.

All i think about every day is my son, the scene at the hospital, the doctor telling us that they tried for an hour but there was nothing they could do. I still see him on the hospital bed with all the contraptions on him. When he left he took a piece of my heart, my life, who I was. He was one of MY BOYS. How do I begin to move on?

I know I must be there for my other boy, but it is difficult, All I think about is Anthony. I wonder if i was there if i could have done anything. i wonder if he was in hoboken where the hospital is just a few blocks away would of made a difference.

Why my son? A piece of the puzzle of my life has been lost and could never be put back together again the same way. The pain in my gut, my heart, my soul is overwhelming. I've tried to help the friends closest to my son in any way I can feeling that it is what he would want me to do. I hope he is proud of me now. I will always be proud to be his father.

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Mar 18, 2011
Information and prayers
by: Frank Pallastrone

I don't know if u are related to Gilda Pignotti. She was married to Tony Pignotti. She was my aunt sister to my mother Kate living in Phila. I'm interested in family info and whereabouts if u can contact me, I can Be reached at. Email fpallastrone@gmail.com. My sisters husband was John Pignotti in Phila. Thank u for ur help. Prayers to all

Jan 26, 2011
It's Been 2 Months
by: Dad

i can't believe you left us just two months ago. Anthony my son, i am sorry for not being there to catch you like i have always. They say you died naturally but there is nothing natural about a 22 year old boy passing. It might as well happened today. the pain in my heart is the same. my thoughts are the same. i wish you could give me some sign to tell me your alright. a text saying you got home ok. i know there will be no more texts. no more what's up daddy. no more fighting about anything.

See how important it is to not let a day go by mad at someone you love. I am soo happy for us that just two days prior we made up over something stupid. Just know my son, i loved you just the way you were and would give my own life to have you back with the people that love you. i miss you more each day , my love for you gets greater each day i miss you, but the pain doesn't subside . i think of all you would of been, you would have been a great fireman. i hope you see all i am trying to do to help the people most important to you. I hope you are proud of me as I am of you, always my son, always forever.

Jan 21, 2011
send love and healing
by: Kay

Hello Anthony
I read your words and they all ring true to my soul.....I am feeling the very same way....I am so so sorry for the loss of your handsome young son....I lost my son 11 may 2010....and I still cannot believe it. My son Dean was so full of life and loved life. He was my life along with his sister and her children. We will forever have a hole in our hearts that nothing will ever fill...we will always keep that space for our child...until we join with them once again...

I send you my love and healing ...just know you are not alone on this path of pain and loss...many of us share your feelings....with the assistance from this site and many hours of reading posts from others like us we will (I hope) gain some understanding and healing, although I believe we will carry our inner pain for the rest of our lives. I am thinking of you ....xxxKay

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