Missing my wife and twin girls

My name Is Anthony, I'm 22 and right now at this time of life I feel so lost and confused as in what's going on in my life. I know people say all the time that things happen for a reason but my question is for what reason? Why do bad things happen to good people? I know god has a plan for each and every one of us that we may not understand now but that's something I look forward to. I lost my wife of 20 years old 3 weeks ago in a very bad car accident. That I can say was the worst day of my life. I never imagined this would happen to us, it's still hard to believe. She was the most amazing person I have ever met, she was so nice to everyone, always had a smile, always helped others in anything she could help with, played sports, and she just got accepted into the radiology program and the most important thing she was always there for me through good and bad! What makes all this harder for me is that just 3 months ago we lost our twin baby girls due to twin to twin transfusion. It breaks my heart seeing all this happen to me in such a small amount of time. I've come to realize that you really never know whys going to happen. It can be today, tomorrow , next week or next month, always tell your loved ones you love them no matter what! Now I'm just trying to get closer to god so that I can understand things better. I'm willing to do what ever it takes for me to see her and be with her and our babies again. I know she's up there with them holding them again looking down on me guiding me through the right path. I will love them always and forever! And no one will ever take her spot! See you soon rest easy baby girl.

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Jul 10, 2014
You are very brave
by: Joana

Hello, I am so sorry for your loss. I know you feel terrible but you will find strengths to move on! Always remember that your wife and your little girls will forever be protecting you and taking care of you. Stay strong, sending much love and prayers towards you.

Jul 06, 2014
Deepest sympathy
by: Lawrence

Hi Anthony.
A very learned Rabbi wrote a book called “WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE” after losing his own baby son.
He had no answer to his own question, because there isn't one, it’s just called LIFE.
You say nobody knows what the next minute can bring and it’s is so true.
On Christmas Day 2012, my wife awoke as normal but two hours later I was closing her eyes on her deathbed and kissing her goodbye and thanking her for an exquisite seventy years of love.
You must be in absolute misery after losing your precious wife, there are no words in any language to ease that pain.
Your nightmare is only three weeks old and all I can suggest is to do what we all did after our own loss, which is to cry and cry, your body and spirit needs to release all the anguish and heartache to help you survive.
You are so young to be a widower, so may if I may make another suggestion.
Don’t stay in the house alone and grieve, get out, go anywhere do anything, keep your mind occupied as much as you can.
The house will still be there when you return, empty and lonely.
Needless to say there will come a time when the tears won’t fall so easily, there has to be otherwise I wouldn't be writing this comment to you, when to be honest all I wanted to do was be with her..
You have joined, unfortunately, a web site of people who have also suffered the loss of a loved one, so read all the stories of their intense grief and I do hope it helps you as much as it did me.
With deepest sympathy

Jul 05, 2014
thank you for writing
by: Susan

Hi Anthony, you sound so brave and you have inspired me with your words. My son was 21 when he died - a little older than you - and he was brave too. I believe your strength will help your wife and girls and they must be very proud of you. Love Susan

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