missing you mom

by Jen
(Philippines)

It's been almost 6 months when my mom died from sickness, it was unexpected and everybody was shocked after she suffered 2 weeks in the hospital. it was the day November 3, 2013 when she died it happened on the day that she was born. At first, I thought I was brave enough to accept that she's gone, but I was wrong, I always missing my mom, I always think about the good memories that we had in the past, her voice and all the things that she does for us will always be alive in my memories, hoping that she will come back and her death was only a "dream". Being the eldest needs to show that im not weak that im strong among my siblings and to my dad, that still now cannot cope the lost of my mom. Whenever I went home from work every weekend, I can feel that our house is empty coz I always saw the memories of my mom in every corner of the house. it's really hard to close my eyes, knowing that she's not coming back. I really love her., sometimes I feel that there's no sense to live coz through my life I work hard for them to give them what they need. I'll help to the best that that a Daughter should in return for all the sacrifices that they made for me during my childhood days . And now, that the unexpected happened, I can say that It's not the right time to lost my mom, but it happened to be and It's a God will.

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May 09, 2014
I understand
by: Anonymous

I know exactly what you're going through, my Mom passed away 6 months ago as well. Also from unexpected illness, what started as a normal respiratory infection/flu wound up putting my 54 yr old mother in ICU on a vent for 5 weeks before Jesus took her home. My bad days are farther apart now but this weekend is going to be rough. I'm sorry that anyone else has to feel this pain, but grateful that others understand and that I'm not the only one who breaks down at seemingly random times and places. <3

Apr 15, 2014
Feeling Your Pain
by: Becky

Jen, I understand how you feel. I loss my Mother eight months ago. I still can't believe that she is gone. It just seems so unreal. I ache to see her face and to have a conversation with her, to have a hug, and a kiss on the check. My Dad is loss without my Mother like your Dad. He hurts me to see him grieve so hard; making me even sadder. My Mom and I were very close. I have only one sister, who is older than me, but she is not very well. When my Mother passed away, I had to handle every thing. My Dad just turned it over to me; he was there, but I had to make all of the decisions. I have to be strong for him; I can not show him my pain because it would upset him to much. I cry when I am alone or when I am at work. You do need to take time for yourself & to grieve, to release the tears. A friend told me that the tears were healthy. You might start a journal that you can write how you feel in it.
You will be kept in my prayers.

Apr 13, 2014
Missing you mom
by: Doreen UK

Jen I am sorry for your loss of your mom. WE all have the same types of feelings from our grief. Feeling that this is just a dream (surreal). That our loved one is away on a journey and will re-appear. Losing them forever and they are never coming back is where most of our difficulty comes from. We may in time manage to resolve our pain of losing them. It is the FOREVER that is very hard to believe and cope with. Just knowing they are never going to be in our life and our world as we know it HURTS to our Core.
Being the oldest in some cultures means that you look out for all those under you who are younger, also bearing the support for the living parent in this case your father. Just be careful that you don't neglect your own need to grieve whilst you care for your family members. Otherwise you will suffer in the end and not be able to cope. I had this responsibility placed on me and it caused me to need counselling because I neglected my own needs. I was the strong one to care for everyone. WE all have our limitations about how we can support each other.
Your father will need to feel his family around him now. Losing a spouse is one of the most painful experiences. I lost my husband to cancer 2yrs. ago and I know this pain is crushing. May God be close to you all now and give you Comfort and Peace.

Apr 13, 2014
prayer for strength
by: lerato

Give Me Strength, Lord
Lord, you are Holy above all others, and all of the strength that I need is in your hands.
I am not asking, Lord, that you take this trial away. Instead, I simply ask that Your will be done in my life. Whatever that means, that is what I want.
But I admit that it’s hard, Lord.
Sometimes I feel like I can’t go on. The pain and the fear are too much for me, and I know that I don’t have the strength on my own to get through this.
I know that I can come to you, Jesus, and that you will hear my prayer. I know that it is not your intent to bring me to this point just to leave me in the wilderness alone.

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