Mom died Oct 12th and she shouldn't of!

I lost my best friend, my everything when my mom died. What makes it worse is the darn Dr's said for months, there is nothing wrong with your mom, she just needs to get up and move so the fluids get out of her. 9 months ago she had triple heart bypass, the fluids never totally came out so she was still going thru rehabs to help, and to get her moving again, she didn't want to do the exercises and she just boohooed about her stomach hurting, her legs hurting, and she was tired a lot. To make a long story short. We were told she had a fatty liver and had it a long time.

So here all this time, her fatty liver turned into cirrhosis then liver failure. Right up till 3 weeks before dying, they never said it was her liver, it was all her organs not working good, and toxins building up, they even did dialysis 3 times saying when she finishes that they will put her on a new heart pill and then she should be on her way to recovery. OMG she had liver failure for months, she had every symptom of it, abdominal pain, loss of appetite, muscle loss, bruising easy, malnutrition, dehydration! After the 3rd dialysis the Drs say, the dialysis isn't working, she has 2 months to live! My mom lived 15 hrs after that and died of liver failure. She was in a lot of pain the last 3 weeks and they did nothing but monitor her organs. I'm sick, just sick about this. I been wanting to know if moms in heaven and if she can hear me if I talk to her, some people told me NO she can't hear me, that really hurts. My mom didn't want to die, she told us to make sure they do whatever they can to keep her alive! Ugh I hate life right now! Can anyone tell me if my moms happy now and if she can hear me?





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Oct 25, 2013
the loss of your mom
by: Lisa

My thoughts are so with you. It is so hard not being to hear mom. But they are with us. I talk to her and cry every night, only just to hear her say "I am doing great",and she is. My mom left us rather suddenly and my heart hurts more each day. But I know she is in a better place than we are. Your life will change as mine has, but you will be ok. Just keep good thoughts and memories,cliche, I know.
You are not alone!

Oct 25, 2013
to: lost faith after Mom died
by: Anonymous--MI

Dear anonymous--I am sorry for the loss of your dear Mom. 11 months ago I lost my husband from SCA and I know the shock, the pain, the unbelief that this could happen to a good person like your Mom and my husband and all on this site who have lost wonderful loved ones. We are all sharing this horrible fact of life---either we die or our dear loved ones go before us---they (who have lived for the Lord) are called to heaven and we must remain on earth to try to cope with our unbelievable sorrow. You have questions of God like many of us have--we are angry and ask God why He took our loved ones while vile, filthy people remain and keep hurting others. There are some things we are not to know the answers to. I used to ask my husband( who was a good Christian man and wonderful person) why God allowed such things to go on. He would say 'there are some things we will not know the answers to' and we must live by faith and trust in God who is all powerful, all wise and makes no mistakes. We do not know God's ways but we must keep our faith and trust in Him. He is the ONLY way that we can get to heaven and have eternal life and to see our loved ones again. Don't give up----God loves and cares about us.

Oct 25, 2013
Mom died Oct 12th and she shouldn't of!
by: Doreen UK

I am sorry for your loss of your mother to a sudden death. It must have been such a shock for you to sit with your mom whilst she was dying. I lost my husband 17 months ago to cancer and had to sit and watch him die slowly in pain for over 3yrs. He didn't want to die. He wondered what it felt like to die. I reassured him that death is but a SLEEP. It is as if you just went to sleep only you didn't wake up. Many people fear death wondering if it is painful to die. It is actually peaceful but it is the disease that makes death painful. Your mother is safe in the arms of Jesus and she isn't suffering any more. It is us who are left who feel all the pain. WE can't even protect our loved one's from suffering. We each of us have our own cross to bear. Just take one day at a time and you will gain strength each day. Grief recovery is a slow process. I wish you better days ahead.

Oct 24, 2013
I have lost my faith aftern my mother died
by: Anonymous

My mother died two and a half years ago of ovarian cancer 13 days after being diagnosed. I am an only child single never married no children.......I live with so much guilt about everything. My mother was misdiagnosed two years ago.....I was told it was her sciatic nerve.....to what they said led to blood clots because she was not moving around enough. Here I was forcing her to walk around the house when she was in so much pain.......The reality was that she was full of cancer and could not walk......I get so angry at myself for not pushing her doctor more at my life in general.......My mother became extremely depressed after my father's death nine years before her own death and became a shut in by choice.......I was constantly on her to try to get her outside to at least get fresh air.....at the end when she was finally diagnosed I stayed at the hospital with her for the 13 days I promised her i would not leave her side and I didnt I held her hand the entire time. My mother was my best friend, watching her suffer the pains of hell while she was dieing and wanting to also die with her has left me forever changed.....I was so faith filled but how could any God allow an innocent, kind, gentle woman who only gave of herself and never harmed a single soul be subject to this suffering......Where was God????? Where is he now??????????????My mother was a faith filled Catholic woman so where was God when she was going through this living hell. My mother's biggest fear was dieing and leaving me alone....she was only 73 my father also died of cancer at only 71....now here I am left.....a totally changed person.....my loving big extended family keeps trying to get the old me back.....when will they get it that that person is gone that's it leave me alone accept me with my anger doubt loss of faith......or just stay away stop trying to change me...I am almost 50 years old....I would love the old me back with my old life back but they are both gone and buried. I have such guilt I sold our family home and keep having these horrible dreams that my mother has come back and she wants to go home to a house that does not belong to us any more. I am now on anxiety medication and anti depressants which I don't think even work.....I never thought this would be my fate. If Heaven exists why do I not get any signs from my precious parents????Is it because when we die that's all folks or is it because they are mad at me for selling the house not being more intuitive in figuring out that there health problems were much more serious than I was being told?????????? Sorry for rambling on.......

Oct 24, 2013
Angels
by: Debbie

Yes!! Your Mom's spirit angel is with you all the time. She could here you even as her soul went to be with Jesus. she is with you always & you will be with her in Heaven when she meets you at those pearly gates!!! God loves you!!! and so does your dear mom!!!

Oct 24, 2013
Mom died Oct 12th and she shouldn't of!
by: Anonymous

Yes, your Mom is in heaven. She gave you love and therefore she is receiving love from the Lord. I also lost Mom in January due to the Doctor's mishandling her illness. She also had extreme pain and the Dr's did not do anything to alleviate until my Sisters and I called hospital services and escalated her case. They finally ended up giving her meds but she passed the next day. The pain she went thru was so unnecessary. She didnt deserve it. I talk to her often and i have had dream visitaions with her. The last one i had she hugged me and told me that she only wanted for us to be happy. I am sure that is what your Mom wants to, for you to be happy. Ask your higher power before going to bed if he can allow your Mom to visit you in your dreams. I am sorry for you loss but yes, i believe our Moms are happy and in Heaven and we will see them again.

Oct 24, 2013
"Your Mother Lives"
by: Jeff

I was sorry to read about your mother passing away. My mother passed away Sunday October 20th. I am an only child. My mother was ninety years old when God called her. She had cancer in her lungs liver breast and bones. I have always lived at home, and when she died, I think a part of me also passed away. The void I feel is awful. I pass bye her bedroom and I feel like she is still in there. However, I have no regrets. I am grateful that I never had to put her in a nursing home. I will pray for your strength, and believe that your mother lives. Not in flesh and blood, but her soul is alive. Jesus called her soul when she passed. You must believe that, and also believe that you will see her again. She will greet you when it's your time to go. God bless you. Please feel free to E Mail me. I also need prayers for my strength and peace of mind.
Love and Peace,
Jeff

Oct 24, 2013
Mom died oct 12th
by: Anonymous--MI

I am very sorry for your loss and hope you look to the Lord to help you in this grief. This is what I believe and know to be true---those of us who have given our hearts to God and believe in Jesus Christ dying for us on the cruel cross and confess our sins will enter heaven's gates. Heaven is total happiness with no sorrow, no tears and nothing but good and the love and light of God. When our loved ones enter heaven they know no pain, no sadness or sorrow--to see us on earth in mourning and such despair would make them sad---they cannot see us or hear us, as heaven is all joy. Our work on earth is to follow Jesus Christ and His teachings--to live as He asks us to live---and spread the good news of His love and saving us from the gates of hell. May you turn to God and keep your focus on Him. God Bless and help all of we who are grieving.

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