Mom Died Two Days Ago

by Meredith
(Downingtown, PA)

I appreciate what is said on the homepage about cycling through and hopping back and forth between all the grief stages--I am a mess. I am 32 and my mom died two days ago at the age of 62. I have 7 mo. old and a 2 yr. old. This is awful. This is hard. I want to die myself at some moments...

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Oct 10, 2012
mom 62 as well
by: Anonymous

My mom is hooked up to a ventelater, its being unhooked tomorrow ,see will probably pass away in a day we have a 2 yr old son and my wife is 5 months pregnant, I'm so sorry for you're loss ,my mom is 62 as well ,its just beginning to feel real,the pain is unbearable and she's not even gone yet ,I'm sorry you have to go thru this I'm sorry I do

Apr 21, 2012
Motherless mother
by: Anonymous

Sweetheart, I'm so so sorry for your loss. My mum died 11 months ago to kidney cancer when I was 30 weeks pregnant with my first son. He is 7 mths old tomorrow. There are no words right now that will ease your pain. I still feel like its all a bad dream and not real and finding hard to accept. The hardest is being a new mum and wanting your mum the most. It's important you keep taking and reaching out to those around you. You at blessed to have two beautiful children who will save you more than you know. My son has Definitely saved me from spiraling into complete devastation and also I feel numb and lost I know my mum would be honoured by living her teachings to me about being the best mum. Please don't feel alone, just one day at a time and trust me , she is right there beside you if you want her to be.

Apr 13, 2012
me too
by: Anonymous

How much I understand these pains. My mother has been gone exactly a year and my faith is so shattered. I want and look for a sign that she is ok but i only have silence. Maybe she is mad at me for something. I never left her side while she was dieing and i would have traded places with her i begged god to take me and not her i was her care giver abd she lived with me i loved her more than life and i wanted god to take me as well so i could be with both of my parents that have died of cancer i feel that i am only existing and not living. she suffered the pains of hell in the last 13 days of her life. I now have extreme panic attacks and depression.

Apr 13, 2012
Share your lost
by: LinMeiMei

I lost my mum on 23 Dec 2011, she fall and gone. She was very very healthy and before she fall, she even prepared breakfast for us, I didn't even have chance to eat it. Am not sure if anyone ever understand how much I wanted to be with her. I've lived for her. As I type now, my tears are running. Life can never be the same again. Every morning, I still tell her I am going to work, but I can never hear her reply and take what she prepare for me to work ever. Every night, when I get home after my work and practice, I can never hear her asking me to go and eat, or eat what she would sometime specially prepare for me; and before I go to bed, I can never get to put my head on her stomach to get her to stoke me and kiss her good night and tell her I love her. I can only tell her in my mind, cos I cannot let anyone at home hear it, else I don't know how my dad and bro who missed her just as much will react. I know I can't kill myself, else I will never get to join her. But it is so difficult to face the world alone without her support and her being the purpose for my effort in everything I do.
At the moment, I can only take her as travelling and can only quietly wait for her to come and fetch me, cos I have no sense of direction.

Mar 06, 2012
Where is GOD!!!!!!!!!!
by: Lost

I was raised in a very devote Catholic Home. Where we (myself included) had a very strong faith. I have been so tested in the last nine years that I could write a best selling novel. Three unexpected deaths. My father, my cousin who was like a sister and my bestfriend and now my mother. I prayed each time with all my soul and all my faith to please let him spare us of this. I never got any answers. Even while my mother was dieing elven months ago today. I pleaded with God to just take her out of her suffering because she was put through hell. I said even JESUS died in a few hours on the cross why should my poor mother who was a gentle, loving giving kind human being who never harmed a fly be put through this again nothing.So now I have such great doubts about my faith, prayer, God, heaven......Maybe our life on earth is all that we have maybe that us just it. This is from someone who had such a strong faith. I just don't know

Mar 06, 2012
You are not alone
by: Lost

You are not alone. I lost my precious mother elven months ago today. I have learned to say that I do not know how you feel but I know how I am feeling and felt. Loosing your parents is the hardest thing to endure the pain is so hard to describe words do not exist to ease the pain. I don't know why death has to be this hard. Time is making it harder and not easier.

Mar 06, 2012
by: Anonymous

hi im really sorry for your loss. i lost my dad at 61 just 4 months agao and i cant believe it is that long. i have cried alot and i miss him terrible. all you can do isyour best and take each day as it comes. have gone to doctors loads of time to try and get help but all they keep saying is there is no quick fix you have to go through all the moments. i wish i could tell you something that would make you feel better but try and remember the happier times with your mum that may bring you comfort

Mar 04, 2012
I'm so sorry
by: MissChris

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. I have not lost my mom, but this last year I lost my husband and two sons. I know how your heart is aching. It sounds like you have two beautiful children. I'll lift your family up in prayer.

Mar 04, 2012
How I Got Through
by: Michelle Livous

How I Began to Heal
I found it therapeutic to share my testimony of what I experienced while grieving the loss of my mother, so I wrote a book (Falling in Love with God: A Guide to Overcoming Grief-Available at and It is the account of how the loss of my mother set me on a journey that opened my heart to experience and love God in a way that I never imagined existed. The book has been a blessing in that I have received so many positive reviews from readers who felt as if I were telling their story. There is comfort in knowing that someone else suffered as you did and found a way out; the knowledge that the pain and grief is not forever gives hope. Know this, our Father in heaven stands with us through our darkest hour. He is the light that will bring us through. Have faith that he knows your pain, trust that he will bring you through and he will.

Michelle Livous
Southfield, MI

Mar 04, 2012
Me too...
by: Sarah

I am going through this as well. I am 35 and have 4 children (13, 11, 8, 6) and my husband is disabled. This past year I've had to go back to work full time and it has been very very hard. I am also in school to improve my job advancement prospects. She was a great deal of support for me through all of this. My husband became disabled after two tours to Iraq and she was the only person I was willing to discuss my anger and bitterness about all of it with. She was 63 and quite literally just "dropped dead." Family had seen her then left the house, nothing out of the ordinary, and then an hour and a half later my brother found her dead on the bedroom floor. I've woken up screaming several nights, I hurt so badly that it is like a physical pain, and now seem to be moving on to anger. I know the depth of the pain you're in and I am sorry you're dealing with it too. It is not a pain that I'd wish on anyone.

Mar 04, 2012
From my heart to yours
by: Lois

Meridith, my heart goes out to you at this time. My precious Mom died 7 days ago and I am beside myself asking her for some sign that she has crossed over into a better life. Every night I reach for the phone to hear her voice and tell her the details of the day. I desperately want to hear her tell me one more time that she loves me and wishes me God's blessings. A friend told me that my Mom's spirit passed into each person who knew and loved her. Perhaps that is the meaning of immortality. We keep passing down to future generations the goodness and love of those we so deeply loved.

Mar 04, 2012
Her Journey has just begun!
by: Anonymous

Don't think of her as gone away --
her journey's just begun,
life holds so many facets --
this earth is only one.

Just think of her as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.

Think how she must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.

And think of her as living
in the hearts of those she touched --
for nothing loved is ever lost --
and she was loved so much.
E. Brennemam

To express
sincere sympathy
in your sorrow

a friend

Grief is such a troubling thing for all of us to bear. If we can acknowledge that it is part of a journey and a beginning and not an end of things somehow for me it is easier to comprehend. I cannot pretend to understand the struggles you are having but I hope that the community in which you live in will shower you with love and acceptance and help you to raise those to young children and encourage as you walk this difficult path. Your new friend. Nancy

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