Mom was always there .
by Joe A
My mother aged 75 recently passed away on 26/08/2014 due to Bone Cancer / Lung Cancer.
She had Breast cancer, stage 1, 2 years ago and had an operation to remove her left breast. Went for regular checkups and follow up, all okay. She was very active and there was never a occasion to be missed or a temple function. 3 months ago, had extreme back pain and MRI scan indicated Bone cancer. It was very fast. We tried our best from one hospital to another. But very sadly we lost her to the Grim Reaper. Words can never express the sorrow of losing our mom.
I am 55 years and married to a loving and beautiful wife. We have no Children. What I am today was forged by my Mom. She motivated us to study and was always there to solve our many shortcomings. Graduated , the first in the family, and worked in a Bank for 28 years.
Mom used to call me 5 to 7 times a day. I used to visit her once a week or fortnight. I supported her financially for her to go about her social activities , mainly revolving temples.
That she pass away within 3 months is very difficult to accept. There is Great sadness and Grief. She was bedridden for the 3 months due to the T3 bone fracture due to CA. She knew she was going to the next life , now reflecting on her many hints, especially on insisting to go back home.
A month ago, on her hospital bed , as we walked in, she was talking to a nurse. She counted the monies she had, RM 30 and said that it was enough to take a Bus from KL to Ipoh ( home ). From there she indicated going away. She couldn`t move from her bed and for all intents and purpose paralysed from hip down.
There are many things I wanted to talk to her but didn`t. Guess we should never postpone what we want to tell our loved ones, how much they matter to us , the unconditional love they gave us and their efforts in shaping us to be what we are today over the years, especially when we were young.
As a hindu, we believe she will be reborn again soon. But still the sadness will be there for a mighty long time.