MY ONLY DAUGHTER,( HAVE TWO SONS), DIED THREE MONTHS AGO. SHE WAS A NEW Ph.D, great new job, new location. Shortly after arriving at new university was diagnosed inflammatory breast cancer. Shje was 47, mother of a 17 yr old son and happily married. I came from the Midwest to her town, rented an apartment so not to be in their hair and helped out. I was with her when she died. It was a long death and grim. The grim pictures are still too available to me.

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Jan 21, 2012
by: Marie Celine

Having lost my daughter Oct.31, 2010 to Bile Duct cancer (2 year battle), I have been walking in your shoes. The cancer she had was at stage 4, and there were only experimental treatments that did not help.

I am only now starting to live a little - but she is always on my mind. Now that all the estate paperwork is over, her death is now more vivid. The flashback of her dying in my arms has been with me since. I wish I had died for her.

I have been to grieving counselling (individual), group counselling, and now I will try a new therapy used in PTSD, called EMDR. My first session will be on Tuesday, Jan. 24, and I am looking forward to see if the therapy will help me.

I managed to keep my sanity with St. John's Wort tea, Arnica Montana Homeopathic pellets, SAMe and other natural supplements. Not long after my daughter`s death, my husband had open heart surgery (early March 2011), it will sound very cold, but I would have given anything for him to die and bring my daughter back. It was so unfair to lose her so young... She is irreplaceable: my other daughter's and son's survival will never stop the hurt. She was unique.

I wish you strength for your long journey to recovery. One minute, one hour, or one day at a time, is my new motto. I've done drumming therapy (Native's Healing Circle) which I've found help a lot.

One must be prepared for this new life, and learn to go with the new flow.

My heart goes out to you, and know that when you are ready the ache in your heart will become more tolerable.

Jan 07, 2012
by: Vickie

I wanted to tell you that I am sorry for the loss of your only daughter. Also for the amount of pain you had to go through watching her die. I do not understand this world which we live in. She sounded like an amazing person. To have a PHD- is an enormous accomplishment. You must have been very proud. I lost my youngest girl to an awful accident a couple yr's ago. She left behind a husband and a five yr. old little girl. I wanted to die after what happened, but I knew that wasn't the answer. I had another daughter and two grandchildren that needed me. I knew my daughter would want me to make sure her beautiful little girl was being taken care of. It has been very difficult at times. Time has helped but there are still hard days. Just fewer than before. This site was/is a blessing to me. Keep coming here and know that you aren't alone. We understand the magnitude of hurt and pain that you are feeling.

God Bless You and Your Family at this time.

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