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MONIKA GABRIELA MENARTOWICZ! Remember our promise!

by Olivia
(Nz)

My beautiful friend Mo!

My beautiful friend Mo!

14 years old, too young to die, you were my everything and i held you close, taken from this world via suicide on Feb 16th 2009.

That day will be imprinted on my heart, i wanted to help, i talked to you and told you everything, you trusted me and i promised, our promises to live untill we were 101 and old and wrinkly, our promise NEVER TO DIE TO SUICIDE.

I'm told that you are in hell by the 'christian' people around me but if that's what they believe, that you, my wonderful amazing friend MONIKA is in hell? NO WAY will i ever believe that!

I go day to day with a feeling of guilt and at loss to what now, my life is not complete without you, HOW CAN IT BE? I wish i did something.. something more then the EVERYTHING i tried.. i love the person you are and i know i will see you again..our un followed promises that were never followed through will be with me forever. I just hope i can keep my end of our pinky promises and plans that we had together..you are my everything and i never once judged you, never have, never will..you are and always will be one of my best friends..death can't take that apart.

Your death is making others do their job... to stop others from commiting suicide..if only they did their job from the start then maybe you wouldn't be gone.

I LOVE YOU BILLIONS MO! xoxoxoxo

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MONIKA GABRIELA MENARTOWICZ! Remember our promise!

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Wish you were here
by: Anonymous

I miss you so much. I think about you all the time... you were such a gorgeous, fantastic, smart, funny girl and every time i think of your death i ask myself, why did it have to be you? why did you have to go this way? There is so much that you're missing out on, so many experiences that we could be going through together if you were still with us.

Being your friend was amazing. Your pigeon imitation was HILARIOUS. I remember me and you making a spit pact when we were 12 after life education that we would look after each others at parties and stand up to anyone who tried to 'peer pressure' into anything, but we didn't even get to play out that promise, coz we never got ourselves into that situation... it sucked a lot when we started to drift apart, but i always looked forward to your emails and updates.

I miss you so much xxx
REVEAL HIMSELF TO YOU
by: Anonymous

I think you have an awesome space here. I think it is blessed by God. You are sharing love and forgiveness and that is what GOD expects of us. We do not always understand why things happen as they do. But one thing I DO KNOW FOR SURE, if we ask GOD how can we use this for your glory and ask him what he is trying to teach us about all happens, GOD will reveal the answer. Believe me I have experienced this over and over. Believe and trust in God. Do not lean on your own understanding but trust and believe in our Heavenly Father. May Our Sweet precious Lord reveal himself to you. Love Brenda Tittle
RIP
by: Catinca

Monika, we grew up together and spent endless days of summer just lounging around. You will be always remembered and I will always cherish the memories I have of you. Of the bright, bubbly girl you were. I wish I was there after Meadowbank, but sadly it was not to be. Hope you are in a happy place now, where everything seems better.

RIP MONIKA MENAROWICZ
KEEP THE MEMORIES ALIVE
by: Ms Horse

Monika is in a safe place, we here are in hell, we go through the evilness of life and are challenged every minute of every day. Do not listen to the people who say she is in hell, how on earth would they know ?!!

Keep Monika alive in your heart. You had a very special gift of spending time with Monika. Remember people come into our lives for a reason, whether it be a long time or short, and leave footprints behind.

I lost my 6 year old niece 13 years ago and I still find it hard at times, but then I remember the fun times and that is what makes me go on. Remember her smile, her laughter, her heart and keep these in yours. xo
response to Monika
by: Gracie

Dear Monika,

It is both wonderful and deeply sad that you had a true friend and the two of you formed a tight bond, one you thought would last at least a lifetime. I am so sorry that your friend cut her life short. Suicide is deeply sad and gut wrenching. I am a mom who lost her son to suicide 4 years ago. I will share a poem under "adult children" titled, "He's Mine" that you might find comforting. It is a true story and in fact, God placed this young man's mother in my path and we chat by phone, having never met. But I took courage from her story those first few months.

It is cruel, false and judgmental to tell someone's family and friends that the person who completes suicide will burn in hell. This is an oft held thought, but it is not biblical. Samson took his life and Hebrews 2 says that he will be in heaven. there are many texts of scripture that help us understand that our God is Love and He wants His kids with Him, not keep them out. Only He knows the circumstances of their lives and only He has all the information about each one of us, which He knew 6000 years ago. That is a long time to plan and wait for each one of us to get here. Why would He grab at any opportunity to snuff our lives out? I have written lots about this. If you read "He's Mine" and want more, contact me at and I will send you more.
God bless you,
Gracie
Love
by: Tanya

I too lost my father to suicide April 5 '08. I heard all the people debating where my father was going, Hell? I don't believe that at all. My father was clinicaly depressed over losing my mother and watching her die in his arms 3 yrs prior.

Let me share my feelings on suicide. If the christains believe that they go to hell, why does the world say depression is a disease? I mean honestly, if a person is dying from cancer, they go to Heaven, because they are sick. Why wouldn't God wrap his heart and arms around someone who is sick in their mind and heart?

People don't understand until heaven forbid, they are in this situation. Prayers lift that person up to heaven anyways. Suicide is tough and I don't believe for one minute that they go to Hell. God is patient and kind, and forgiving!
Monica
by: Anonymous

An old childhood friend, gone forever. Memories live on. Lots of them to remember from primary. Will always remember Monica M.

Xxx
forgiveness
by: Matty

Monika is in Heaven. God is a very loving and compassionate God. She is in his care. I do know this. My son Justin took his life June 28, 2009. I will share his story soon.
Heart
by: Anonymous

Let the Christians believe and say what they want. Monika is not in hell she is in a safe and warm place, your heart!!!

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