Just read something today that spoke to me. It seems that this grief journey can get stuck in the sadness and hopelessness for far too long. We equate our depth of sorrow with the depth of love we felt for our partner. Often this is not a conscious decision. It just seems to balance out our previous lives with our current situation. What if we celebrated our past love in a positive way and let go of the negative feelings of loss. Why continue to build a monument of misery to commemorate a life time of love and joy. I know this is not realistic during the first months of grief but once the shock and numbness fades it would be so uplifting to revel in the happiness that our partner gave us and to daily celebrate a good relationship. Kent and I had such a good time during our lives together and I've decided to be happier every day in honour of him. The cycle of despondency will be broken. I still feel very alone and very lonely but I will consciously remember past good times and I will break down that monument of misery and build a new one of joy and thankfulness. We had a great ride for 43 years and I will honour that forever in a happy way. What's done is done. Only I can decide how to somewhat influence what will be.