by Kathy Berko

My Son Douglas was killed by a 17 year driver that made a illagel U turn...on Aug.31,2011 he was 48... his wife of 14 years will not let me see my grandsons age 11 & 13 ..I went to all the sports events ..had dinner with them ..I love spending time with them ..we had sleep overs..I spent as much time as she would let us ... I love them so very much .....she got me in my darkest hr. that is the kind of person she is very sick... ... I don't know what she is telling the boys ..(HOW VERY SAD FOR THEM.) ..I will go on then you will understand ...she goes to AA after the death of my son she started to dinner one night my older grandson told me she was drinking again she said no ! I don't drink anymore !.... my grandson said to his mother don't lie to grandma ..well I have not been able to see the boys after that night son & his wife were very unhappy with each other... I think God took Douglas home to save him ... his wife is a very sick person .
I really don't know what to do I need to get stronger so then I can try to see the boys I miss my Son & Grandsons more the I can say I don't sleep much & cry all the time..I do pray a lot that helps.

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Dec 30, 2012
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by: Anonymous

I do not know how this was made public. And for you to make a comment regarding why it became public, I did not give anyone permission to post it. Do not comment on something when you do not know the story.
I have two grandchildren who I do not see because their mother has some kind of problem with me that I also do not know about.
Please do not pass judgement on a grieving mother or grandmother who has also lost her grandchildren.

May 12, 2012
One for the grandchildren
by: Anonymous

I think that if you have something to say that you should tell her directly to her not on line!!!! This is something that should not be broadcasted but dealt with in a private manner. I hope that you find it in your heart to find peace in both of your families and get along for the children's sake.

May 11, 2012
by: Anonymous

Without knowing any history between you and your DIL, it's hard to comment but, if you think your grandsons may be at any type of risk, would you be able to notify the proper authorities to make a report?
Just keep in mind though that if she isn't a horrible mother, making a report may just cause a bigger rift between you and DIL.
I lost my 21 year old son. It will be 3 months ago on Mother's Day. Even though my son was young, I at times I wish he had a child.
I wish you the best.

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