Mother's Day = :(

by R

I lost my Mam, my hero, almost 11 months ago to a cruel disease. She was too young to go but too weak to stay. She fought until the end with such determination and strength, she was one in a million.

For all I thought I was coping well with her passing over the months supporting my family through such a hard time, I haven't been entirely honest with myself. I haven't been coping, far from it, but have hid my pain well. To appreciate the highs in life you have to respect the lows and this is the biggest one of them all. To be a naturally happy, optimistic person these feelings of being so down are very hard yet humbling.

This Sunday is going to be difficult, not only is it Mother's day but also for my grandparents who have lost their daughter. To be honest I am dreading this weekend and I'm already sick of the adverts, cards in shops and everything associated with Mother's day.

On Sunday I am planning on on visiting my grandparents and then visit my Mam's grave. It's hard to think that this time last year we were all round a table celebrating Mother's day as a family and how we have this huge hole in our lives.

I know I will get through the day like I have got through the past year but my heart feels so heavy as I miss her so much. The next few weeks will be hard to as her anniversary is fast approaching.

So here is to you Mam, Happy Mother's Day love and miss you always.

Love me

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Mar 30, 2014
Mother's Day
by: Anonymous

Thanks for your comments you are very kind. I managed to get through the day with the help of my family. I hope you are all doing ok. Thinking of you all. Therese

Mar 30, 2014
Mother's Day
by: Anonymous

I am also sorry for your loss anonymous, I hope you find some comfort today as I know how hard it will be for you. I am a Mam so today for me is hard as I need to be all smiles for my little girl but inside I want to cry. However we will get through today and everyday one step at a time, do what you feel is best if you want to cry good as I've learned there's nothing worse than bottling it all up. Take care and my thoughts are with you.

Mar 29, 2014
My Beautiful Mum
by: Doreen UK

Dear Anonymous,
I am so very sorry for your loss of your Mum two and a half weeks ago. YES! it is so cruel. I am also sorry for your loss of your sister to breast cancer. Especially difficult because of your planned trip with your mother and also for Mother's day tomorrow. I lost my mother 11yrs. ago days before Mothers day and I had to take all the lovely gifts I brought her back to the shop. It was too painful to keep. One just doesn't know what will happen from day to day. We can't put off plans either as life has to be lived and planned trips and meals out to make life more pleasant and enjoyable being together.
You must miss your sister also. It is both losses so close together. If you find yourself struggling you can see a CRUSE bereavement counsellor who will support you as you work out both losses. Somehow one does get through the day. But it depends on who you have for support in your immediate family or extended family. I lost my husband of 44yrs. almost 23 months ago and I am still feeling sorrowful. He died from the worst cancer working with Asbestos. He suffered a slow painful death over 3yrs. whilst I nursed him and had to watch him die slowly. He died 16 days before his 66th birthday and we went back to the graveyard and put up balloons and flowers and cards and raised the balloons to the sky in support of all those who died of cancer. Do write back again and keep writing for support so you will not feel so alone. Let us know who is supporting you in your family? May God be close to you and help you get through Mother's Day and the days ahead. Best way forward is ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Mar 29, 2014
My beautiful mum
by: Anonymous

I lost my beautiful mother suddenly 2 and a half weeks ago . We had so much to look forward to as I had planned a trip away the week after she died and was looking forward to the summer to have nice times together . Last year we were both looking after my sister who died last sept from breast cancer . I loved them both so much . It is so cruel . I dread Mother's Day and every day ahead now . How will I cope ?

Mar 28, 2014
Mother's Day
by: R

Hey Therese thanks also for your kind words I hope you are also doing ok. I know how hard it is but I'm sure you're mom would be so proud of you and all that you achieved, be kind to yourself sometimes it's difficult to but it's so important :)

My mam was only 59 when she passed away and this time last year we were planning a lovely lunch together.

I'm so grateful for this website it's really helpful :)

Mar 28, 2014
Mother's Day
by: Anonymous

I know how you feel. I lost my mum in July she was 83 and died from heart failure. I thought I was strong that I would cope but I have been so sad, so down and barely functioning. like you I hate to see the cards in the shops, the flowers etc. Last year I bought mum a card for Mother's Day with out putting much effort in to it. Now I feel that I would give my right arm to go out and be able to pick a card and gift for her. I took her so much for granted stupidly believing she would always be in my life. To all who lost a loved one you have my sympathy. It is so final, so tough and people who haven't lost a loved one don't understand. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.Therese.

Mar 27, 2014
by: R

Hey thanks for your kind words. I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you find comfort in your memoiries and things you have shared. I find photos help me and writing about how I feel (like this).

Since yesterday I feel as if things seem clearer, although I feel sad I feel as if I am coming to terms with everything more.

Thanks again for your response

With best wishes


Mar 26, 2014
Mother's Day = : (
by: Doreen UK

I am sorry for your loss of your mother, and for the difficult time Sunday will be for you all as a family.
My mother died 11yrs. ago just before mother's day. I remember going shopping and wanted to buy everything for my mother. I bought so many things and a lovely card and a few days later my mother died. I was so heartbroken and had to take all those goods back to the store and explain my mother died. This was such a painful time for us as a family. I have since lost my husband of 44yrs. to lung cancer. A slow death over 3yrs. where it was a horrendous journey. He died 16 days before his birthday and we all had to return to his grave and put up balloons and flowers. The balloons were then released for Cancer charity in the name of all those who lost the battle and died. It is a horrible road ahead for those who lose their mother's/spouses and loved ones.

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