Mourning, severe heartache, trying to adjust....
by Nancy Tannenbaum
(Rio Rancho, New Mexico)
I am 61 years old. I moved here to New Mexico 14 months ago to stay with my daughter and son-in-law while "getting on my feet." I was my mother's caregiver for 15 years. She has dementia. We could not go on as we were. Mother is now in a wonderful care center getting wonderful care. My son, a minister, is her legal guardian. I am suffering from severe homesickness (Mother is in Texas, where I was born and lived for 60 years), heartache because my only sibling, my sister, and I are now estranged as she is convinced I somehow cheated her out of an inheritance when Mother's house was sold, and of course intense guilt over having left Mother. I am trying to find a job. But all I want to do is GO HOME. I don't know what to do.