Moving

by Angela
(British Columbia )

My son, his girlfriend and unborn baby are moving. Right now we all live in BC and my Son and I are from Toronto. Kody, my son got involved with a girl here in BC and now have a one year old boy. my daughter in law is now pregnant with their second child and have decided to move back to Toronto.

This is so very upsetting for me. They plan to move before the new baby comes in October :( i don't know how to deal with this. I have said nothing but nice things to the both of them, as i don;t want them to stay because of me or make them feel bad for the decision they have made but this is driving me NUT'S. with all this said, i am going through some health issues as well :( not a great time for me at all.

After 15 years of being on depression medication, i finally took myself off them in Nov 2011 and was doing just great but now with this going on, i'm feeling very depressed and have tons of anxiety. I really don't want to go back to the meds but i don't know how to cope with all that is happening. If anyone can give me some idea's or share a story similar to mine, please write back.

Angela

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Mar 22, 2012
thank you :)
by: angela

Thank you so much for the kind words, it really means alot. I'm sorry to hear about your husband and I hope everything goes well for you. I talked with my son last night and was able to tell him how I was feeling and he put his arms around me and gave me the biggest hug:) I know it's going to be a rollercoaster ride for the next few months but i have good friends and a great family that is already trying to help me with this.

Mar 21, 2012
Time for you
by: Judith in California

Angela, this is what we do as parents. We prepare for them to leave home and make it on their own. They feel it's time with having their own family unit to concentrate on. She and his children are his family now and you must accept this. They will come see you once in a while won't they and wont they call you and send you pictures. If they have a computer and you have one then you can share e-mails and pictures that way.

I know this is giving you some anxiety but....

Please don't go back on meds. You can take walks if able and enjoy looking at the sky and enjoy the sun and look at the things around you . You can even pursue a new relationship be it with a man or make new girlfriends and do stuff together. Take time to read books on new things or about what you like. You can go through your home and cabinets and straighten them out and get rid of things you no longer need or want,

Ask your son and daughter in law to promise to keep you in their lives as well and check on you often because you will be lonely and miss them. Ask them to keep you up to date on the grandchildren and make sure they can call you and say HI Grandma.

My husband passed 18 months ago and I was his total caregiver and I went from always busy to not having much to do then I began doing all the things I'm suggesting to you and now I'm always busy doing something . I got to know me all over again.

Please take care and feel good for them.

In todays economy they may want to come back.


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