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Multiple Losses?

by Louise
(Louisiana)

Between my husband and me we have lost 20 immediate family members from September 2005 to January 2010. Eight of those deaths occurred within a six (6) month period, in 2008. We are reeling! Almost every month is the anniversary of some milestone in the life of these loved ones. We had varying levels of intimacy with at least 98% of those that died. Yes, we have a strong belief system and yes, we have others that share this grief on some level—particularly if it was one of their family members. But 20 people!

All of these deaths occurred individually, multiple ages, and in a variety of ways. No natural or man-made disaster that contributed to these deaths. The latest was the result of murder and so far, it is the hardest experience. Is there anyone else out there that have a similar experience?

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TO LOUISE/ LOSS OF MANY SOULS
by: Anonymous

TO LOUISE,
I, TOO, HAVE LOST MORE FAMILY MEMBERS THAN I CARE TO THINK ABOUT. IT HURTS. YOU NEVER SEEM TO GET THROUGH GRIEVING OR OVER THE PAIN OF LOSS, BEFORE SOMETHING ELSE COMES ALONG.

THERE ISN'T MANY OF US LEFT NOW. MY MOM LEFT US
LATE IN 2009. BELIEVING THAT GOD IS ALWAYS THERE TO HOLD ONTO YOU AND COMFORT YOU WITH HIS HEALING LOVE, MAKES IT EASIER. BLESS YOU.
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by: Tan

Well I have had losses close together too. In 2005 my mother passsed. She had a massive heart attack. March 23 in fact, remember it like it was yesterday. Then my mother-in-law moved in after her soon-to-be husband died suddenly in 2007.
Then as we were getting her settled in, she passed. October! Then six months later, my father committed suicide, April 5th of 2008!

It never seems fair. I keep having to switch my brain over from time time. Wondering why all the time just makes it worse. A three year span to lose very important people in your life is just too hard to bear sometimes.

As I get older I see a lot more of the area funeral homes and it is sad. But if God brings you to it, he will bring you through it. Sorry for all your losses, too, and remember time heals all!

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