Mum I didn't know what we had
by Annette Parry
Mum died 25th May 2013 and the family was by her side at home. Mum had been ill with bladder cancer for 4 years when she first got diagnosed with this illness they gave 4 to 6 months to live but against all odds she survived 4 years after the diagnosis. . My Daughter had given up her job to look after her so Mum was able to stay at home and not be taken into care.
Unfortunately the cancer spread to her liver and this was the start of the end. Mum was fantastic she had seven children and was left widowed when we were all very young. She had gone through some horrendous times but she got us through and brought all of us well. We lost our eldest sister in 1980 and Mum fought her grief and continued to bring the rest of us up.
She has gone through so much in her life and she was a great mum, she was always there for us.
I was devastated when she died and it is now 6 months on and I feel worse than ever, it doesn’t take much to set me off crying, and I miss her so much. Because she was always there I feel as though I took her for granted and got on with my own life. I should of done more with her….
I wrote this poem for her.
Thank you for being our mum
You’re our rock, our star that shone
You gave us the most precious gift
The life we have, through you we exist.
It will feel strange when you’re not with us
We will miss you so much, you are so precious
Your armchair is now left empty
But the love you left in our hearts is plenty
Your Strength in life gave us direction
We knew you were there to give protection
A home you made we felt secure
Guidance you provided to help us mature
The warmth you gave through thick and thin
You were always there a power within
Our memories as a family together
Something that we will share forever
The foxtrot being your favourite dance
Dad being your true romance
Both spending forty five years apart
Now reunited with your sweetheart
Mum, we don’t want you to go!!
We want you here that’s selfish we know
It’s your time to have with Lynda and Dad
Those times you missed, now yours to have
We will miss you more than you will ever know
The mum and grandmother we love ever so
In our thoughts and hearts you’ll stay
We will love and miss you mum every day.