my beauiful daughter jenny

by Connie Beringer
(Belleview FL)

My daughter Jenny died may 12 2008 her birthday was may 11 and on may 12 I got a phone call that said she had been in a car accident I drove to the hospital to go see if she was OK. she was not. Jenny died and I went to see her and to tell her that I loved her but of course it was to late. { will never forget that day that { had to say goodbye and I cant seem to get over it. I cry all the time and I miss her so so much. I think I need help as it seems to get worse not better is there a support group or someone I can talk to. I think I need help.

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Aug 11, 2013
Your daughter Jennifer
by: Debby

I feel the same way you do and it's ok.My daughter Hannah,31,was crushed by a truck her brother was was nothing more than a bad accident for five people.Her daughter, MJ, and partner jumped avoided serious injury. My son, Logan.did bad things to his ribs, spine,discs, and his mindset...Hannah was his best friend. They had been camping and drove to a safe swimming hole...truck flipped...they laid there for 4 hours in over 100 degrees weather before help came. I know it is God's plan, and a new, better door will open in time...there is a reason for everything. Pray and talk to your daughter, I think she can hear you. Sleep when you're tired.

Jul 19, 2013
My beautiful daughter jenny
by: Doreen U.K.

Connie I am sorry for your loss of your daughter Jennie. It has been some 5yrs. and you are still in the same days of early grief. Now is the time to see a grief counsellor who is skilled in being able to support you and help you move forward beyond those early days of grief. The pain should get less but the memories will be with you forever. Your grief is limiting your life and it shouldn't be after 5yrs.
What you are experiencing is normal. Having experienced a sudden death where you didn't get the chance to tell her all those things you wanted to before she died and now it is too late. You can't keep punishing yourself for not being able to do this. Often when we can do nothing about our situation we either have to let it go or change our attitude towards our situation and then things change. It is not easy to do this. I found it hard but after a few years of counselling I am in a healthier place to be able to practice this. It comes easy now. Losing a child no matter what age is the very worst experience of a parents life. WE will grieve forever but without the pain and this loss affecting our life to the degree we are unable to move forward.
You may have been stuck in grief for these five years which is why it is still affecting you this way. This is common. I was stuck in grief and couldn't find my way to move forward but this grief site has helped and on going it will help all of us to be in the place we need to be so we can restructure our lives to make life easier otherwise we will feel we are in some state of purgatory. Things will get better in time but it is a slow process.

Jul 18, 2013
The Compassionate Friends
by: SoSadDad

Connie, you are very normal for the situation. Bereavement and grief have not fixed time tables. The loss of a child of any age or any cause is a lifelong sentence for the parents. I have lost both of my children, my two adult daughters, within the last four years. Please consider attending one or both of these chapters of The Compassionate Friends:

Summerfield/The Villages
TCF of Central Florida (7.09 miles)

Chapter#: 2137
Cheryl (352) 347-1942
or Rosemary (352) 259-4809
Meeting Info: 3rd Tuesday of each month at 7:00 pm
Meeting Address: Trinity Lutheran Church, 17330 S US Highway 441, Summerfield, FL 34491

TCF of Ocala Chapter (10.05 miles)

Chapter#: 2274
Bill (352) 522-0768
or Norellen (352) 369-6665
Meeting Info: 1st Wednesday of each month 7:00 pm
Meeting Address: Blessed Trinity Catholic Church (Elder Care Bldg.), 5 SE 17th St, Ocala, FL 34471

And don't wait to call one of the people listed. They understand. The Compassionate Friends is run by parents who have lost a child. No one else can come close to understanding your grief (grandparents who have lost a grandchild come very close). There is no judgement at TCF, no expectations, no time limits and no cost. Please give it a try for at least three meetings.

I'm in Kentucky, and the two local chapters I go to have literally been life savers.

God bless you!

Jul 18, 2013
by: Wendy

You may try to find a grief support group in area churches. I am so sorry for you loss. I lost my 21 year old son in 2009. Support is almost mandatory. I saw a grief counselor throughout the first year after his death. I wish you the best and caution you about having high expectations about a recovery time line. You have to let it happen even though the pain is beyond your senses.

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