My beautiful brown eyed boy Danu

by Bernadina
(Toronto, Canada)

It has been almost one year now and I want you all to know the only way to pass through grief intact is to do charitable work for others in need. My son Danu taught me this. Danu is with me in spirit and in mind and I listen to him in my heart.

Death is final only in the physical realm. I see my boy smiling whenever I think about him, and he has shown us numerous times that he continues to participate in and guide our lives in love. The sorrow never goes away but the impossible days
or hours become further apart. Loss alters us.

I find it essential to think positively, and Danu has told me guilt is self-centered and self-indulgent. I keep this in mind
when I think of all the things that could have been different. The one year is coming up and I am trying to prepare. I plan to go to the country that day so he can see beauty through my eyes, so we can see together.

One more thing that may help you. Celebrate life and your loved one will be there.
Cook the favourite meal and they will be there. And then whenever the grief comes, you know it will pass.

Peace to all of you. Bernadina and Danu

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Nov 18, 2010
by: Joan

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I lost my beautiful daughter melanie 3 years ago to an illness. I am still struggling with it. I have been back to school and l try to keep busy. But the pain from the loss and grief is always close by. Like you l have my spiritual beliefs that help me through. I agree with everything you said, and you said it so beautifully. Special occasions can be very difficult, and the build up to those occasion can be a struggle. But from now on l will try to look at it differently thanks to your lovely way of thinking. Thank you once again for sharing. And to everyone who has lost a darling son or daughter, remember you are not alone. Our loved one is still with us, always.

Oct 26, 2010

Trying to get to your frame of mind, It is a struggle but that is where I want to end up. Thinking that what I experience I do for the both of us see the beauty as we would have. Laugh as we would have take joy in the things that call out to me to be seen. And not to drown in sorrow feeling suffocated by loss. Thank You

Oct 22, 2010
by: Anonymous

Hopefully, this will make sense.
Half way through your message I thought 'Hmmm ... I need to write this person and congratulate her for achieving such a plain of enlightenment. THEN I got smacked in the face, for being so smug, with a lesson I needed to learn ... or at least hear or read.
In short, thank you for sharing. You helped at least one person.
There is no such thing as "death."

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