My Beautiful Burmese Cat "Toby" went to sleep a week ago!

by Anne O'Meara
(Vancouver, B.C.)


I made the decision a week ago to put my beautiful Burmese cat to sleep after having him for 12 years. He did have some health issues like sneezing and coughing and I was back and forth to the vet then he started drinking lots of water and peeing constantly. We took lots of x-ray and he was then diagnosed as Diabetic. The vet said he could live if I gave him Insulin injections twice a day and monitor his urine, and continual check ups at the vet. Since January,2012 I have paid $1,500 in vet fees and as I'm on a fixed income it was hard for me to pay these bills. I have regrets and very sad that I did not at least try and keep him with me for as long as he could survive.

How can I overcome this guilt and stress as I miss him so much, I adored Toby and did everything I could for him. Should mention that my Russian Blue was 15 years old and she got very sick and had to be put to sleep 2 months before Toby!!

Please help.

Anne

P.s. I have since got a little kitten but everytime I look at him I wish it was Toby. I never felt I would feel so depressed and sad about a cat.

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May 03, 2013
missing my poppy
by: Philip

after 17 years with my burm girl poppy we decided she had had enough suffering , glaucoma and almost blind she still purred in such pain, and like most cat owners the decision is the hardest thing to come to terms with. we miss her meows when wanting food , the pitter patter of her little feet on the hardwood floors, and the nightly ritual of tucking up beside my pillow . our other burm rollo is missing the companionship they shared, and leaving him alone tears at my heart when i go to work, all cats are great , but burms are for me the top cat. we are only 3 days since she departed and the ache is hard to bear.we were blessed when poppy entered our lives, she will always be our special girl.

Aug 20, 2012
Diabetes is a horrible disease...
by: Jessica

I'm so sorry to hear about your Toby :( I am having to put my Mushu to sleep on Wednesday. He too is diabetic. Insulin twice a day, special diet, it didnt work. Over the past 8 months since his diagnosis I have seen a great change in him, much weaker and stiff. Now he has become incontinent with his urine and is losing feeling in his legs. His sight is also fading. I've had him since I was 8 years old, I am now 21. I dont know how i am supposed to deal with this i cant imagine my life without this cat. i feel so lost, weak, and empty inside and I still have 2 days with him.. I will pray for you. our pets our our family and I know your hurting.

Aug 20, 2012
Diabetes is a horrible disease...
by: Jessica

I'm so sorry to hear about your Toby :( I am having to put my Mushu to sleep on Wednesday. He too is diabetic. Insulin twice a day, special diet, it didnt work. Over the past 8 months since his diagnosis I have seen a great change in him, much weaker and stiff. Now he has become incontinent with his urine and is losing feeling in his legs. His sight is also fading. I've had him since I was 8 years old, I am now 21. I dont know how i am supposed to deal with this i cant imagine my life without this cat. i feel so lost, weak, and empty inside and I still have 2 days with him.. I will pray for you. our pets our our family and I know your hurting.

May 03, 2012
Greiving Tobby
by: Anonymous

Hi, We lost our precious male car Simba a year ago April 11th and we still can hardly stand to talk about him. We doctored with him for about a year and he finally got so bad we had to put him to rest and it was one of the hardest things I ever did in my life, he was in our family for 16 years. I look back at his pictures the last year and see the pain and decline in his health and know I did the right thing but it is still very, very hard to let go of someone you love so much. No soul can replace them and we have to just look back at the time we shared with joy. Take care;you are in our thoughts.

Apr 30, 2012
My Beautiful "Toby"
by: Anne O'Meara

Nobody ever told me the grief I would go through
losing my Toby. Toby was a wonderful companion for me through all the ups and downs in life and I
shall never forget the pleasure I had over the past 12 years. I think about him every day
even though I have a 9 weeks old kitten he cannot replace my beautiful Burmese cat. I'm on a waiting list for another Burmese cat but there are 40 people ahead of me so I may not get my cat until the end of this year. As I have always had cats in my life it was too long to wait so that is why I got a kitten and I'm hopping they will be company for one another. The kitten will be
about 9 months old when my new cat arrives so I hope they will get along!!

Anne

Apr 23, 2012
My Beautiful "Toby"
by: Anne O'Meara

I'm still going through the pain and loss of Toby. He was so cute and everyone said he was a beautiful Burmese Cat. His coat felt like silk even though he was 12 years old and still playful. Toby helped me through a breakup, my 2 younger brothers death and this feels worse!
I miss not looking at him and seeing him on my bed. He would lie on my chest in the morning and lick my hands and noise and stare at me until I got out of bed. He demanded a lot of attention and I truly gave him all the love I had.
I would kiss him and tell him "I loved him" and he honestly knew what I was saying to him!

I'm a mother with 2 grown up children and a grandchild and nothing prepared me for this loss.
Some people don't understand your grief and feel you should be over it - I'm NOT.

I can relate to anyone that has lost a pet and will know the sorrow and pain that they will go through.

Anne

Apr 21, 2012
I know it hurts
by: Dale

Dear Anne
It is amazing how we get so attached to our pets even though we know that we will likely have to say good by one day. I spent 2yrs. caring for a cat with lymphoma and the meds were a continuing expense, as well as experimenting with different foods to find what she would eat. It did get costly but I decided she would be my hobby until she passed away. The vets said maybe 2yrs and that's what she got. But she gave me and my family a lot of happy times but when she did pass on it was her time. Each situation is different and we as owners have to decide the best course of action. It's been about 3mos now and I still miss her company but as the seasons change I remember the happy times. I hope you can too.

Apr 20, 2012
My Beautiful "Toby"
by: Anne O'Meara

Its been 12 days since I put Toby to sleep and still feel the pain and heartbreak about making the decision to end his life. I never realized how special he was and such a wonderful companion. He was high maintenance and needed lots of attenion but I loved him dearly. Freinds say I did the right thing as I cannot live my life around a cat! They don't understand the bond I had with him and he helped me get through a divorce, living on my own and moving from Ontario to British Columbia. I took him on the plane with me and my Russian Blue. They helped me get adjusted to the move and were wonderfui companions.

The vet gave me 10 minutes to make up my mind and it should have been 24 hours and I would have had time to think about it in detail and read up on the care of a Diabetic Cat.

I hope this will help anyone that has a cat diagnosed as Diabetic but PLEASE keep him for as long as you can. You will feel much better about making a decision down the road.
Anne

Apr 19, 2012
My Beautiful "Toby"
by: Anne O'Meara

Well its been 8 days since I put my beloved Toby to sleep and I'm still heartbroken about doing this and if I knew the pain and stress that followed, I would have tried to give him Insulin and the care that he needed. I made the decision when I was under so much stress because I lost my Beautiful Russian Blue cat 2 months before Toby. It was all too much to take and the stress.

I also bought a condo in Vancouver last December in Vancouver so moving my two older cats was not a good idea. Cats like their own territory and I'm sure the move did not help them.

I feel better writing this and want to let everyone know the pain and sadness that I wakeup with every morning is sometimes unbearable. I know I will get through with this but I will never put a pet of mine to sleep again without trying to keep him alive on medications, costs, etc.
I'm planning to move out of this condo and back to a quieter place too many bad memories for me and I prefer country life.

Anne

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