My best friend forever gone

by Deva
(Warwick ri)

My wedding day is suppose to be today. 3 days ago my mom was found unconscious at home. Rescue came and tried to revive her and bring her back but her time had come. During this whole wedding planning we clearly had our arguments and oddly enough made up hugged and kissed day before she passed. We had made plans to do center pieces together and dance to our favorite songs while at the the wedding. She was taken too soon from me and my very close very loving family. Our hearts are broken and my strength to go on to which would have been one of the happiest moments in my life with my best friend my rock my mom. To now not having her at all is heart breaking. We have moved the wedding to November. I couldn't bear the pain of getting married and seeing the slide shows of me and her.
I just need advice or guidance on when all the craziness ends and your left with your normal life again how do you live each day working and food shopping to doing laundry. I just can't picture my life without her.

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Sep 15, 2014
by: Deva

Yes Lauren that sounds great ... My email devaz88@aol.*om

Sep 15, 2014
I'm so sorry-i can relate
by: Lauren

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My mother passed away in March and we were the best of friends. She was 59 with no health issues, my dad found her at the kitchen table unconscious after she poured her coffee and got the newspaper. She was pronounced dead as soon as paramedics arrived. We didn't have an autopsy because my dad couldn't bear the thought of one. I wish I knew what happened. She was my and my 5 year old sons whole life. We did absolutely everything together. I wish I could say it gets easier, but for me it hasn't yet. I find myself dreading the future, particularity holidays. I find that I have withdrawn from other people because they just don't get it. I would love to talk if you need someone who can relate. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Sep 14, 2014
She passed
by: Anonymous

Autopsy came back as it being a cerebral subarachnoid hemorrhage :(

Sep 08, 2014
My best friend forever gone
by: Doreen UK

Deva there are no time limits on grief and how long it lasts. You can get through grief better by taking ONE DAY AT A TIME. If you FOCUS too far ahead you will be engulfed with sorrow and feel very overwhelmed.
You may face petty irritations planning a wedding, and may be more sensitive now but don't take things too serious. Your wedding day should be the best day of your life. Very wise to postpone the wedding till later. this will give you more time to process your loss of your mom and to start to heal from your loss.
I lost my mom 11yrs. ago and it took me 9yrs. to recover from grief. I lost my husband to cancer 2yrs. ago and started to feel my grief more from losing my mother. You just learn as you go on what is best way for you to cope with your loss and how to move forward. But the guidance and support from each person is unique but helpful when you don't know what to expect from grief. Just don't give up hope that you will get your life back on track and you can be happy. I am sorry for your loss of your mom.

Sep 06, 2014
Dear Deva,
by: Anonymous

I lost my father suddenly as well, and I can relate completely to your pain. I am so, so sorry to read about your mother. My dad collapsed and died almost two years ago. Seemingly healthy man who had watched my son play basketball the day before. Like you and your mother, we were the best of friends. I am an only child, and he was my favorite person in the world. I have experienced every emotion from anger to desperation to bewilderment , my mind is a roller coaster. I can say that I have reflected on so much during this time, and I have finally come to accept his death. But my pain is still raw. It's always right there- under the surface. I will tell you to take time for yourself and be kind to yourself. This website has been a lifesaver for me - the kindness and support of total strangers has gotten me through some very dark days. I hope you find that as well. I wish you comfort and peace as you begin to heal and I will keep you in my thoughts. Hugs, Barb

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