My Best friend gone in mins without a chance to say goodbye

by Nettie White
(Winston Salem NC)

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I have been married to my husband/ bestfriend for 19years . He was my everything we had three children together and when I met him I had one. He was a good hearted person a wonderful dad and husband. until Feb 15,2012 never complained of sickness. we had just got done moving and him and a few friends were returning the Uhaul back and going to one of his friends house afterward. It was a little strange to me because we usually do it together. Did he know something I didnt know? He called me 20 mins after he left and said Nettie my chest hurt I said ok and told him Ill call him back because he never complained. He call back 5 min later I said call 911 and get to the hospital and the next call I received changed my life forever. His friend told me he was throwing up (a sign of a heart attack) he said he had a seizer and went out. The ambulance was there trying to bring his heart back. He passed away at the UHAUL place. My life seems lifeless when he left he took my smile with him. His family stays an hour away but they dont care Im here alone my family is in New Jersey. We were the only family each other knew. I feel like I am living a dream IM numb. I cry allday wishing that I could relive that day over. The cause was a massive heart attack he was healthy never no symptoms he had a blocked attery in his heart. People keep saying time will heal your broken heart but I honestly dont believe them I miss him soooooooooo much.

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Apr 17, 2012
i am sorry for your loss...
by: Eloisa Sotto

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband too last november 2011, same way your husband died. Like you we always do stuffs together. and we were married for 18 yrs with 3 kids. I really feel you. i felt that kind of numbness the day he died. i couldnt even cry hard that day. i was shaking and so lost. no goodbyes...yet and i needed to gather up my senses for my kids' sake. people may say we'll get over it soon but they will never understand the pain. i hope and pray that the pain will soon fade away...

Mar 30, 2012
My Friend My Cousin
by: Renee

I am sorry, I could not have been there for his goodbye, but I tried. I think of him often these days too. He was a quiet and soft spoken person, although we didn't speak much, once in blue moon he would call and it was like we were kids again. I miss him too. I am sure if you reach out the family you think doesnt care, that family will answer the call with the love you need right now, I know this because that's the family that grew the man you loved so much.

Mar 20, 2012
I thank you all for your support
by: Nettie

I know that Im not the only one who lost someone important to them, but sometimes it feels like it. He just was my everything and I miss him terrible

Mar 20, 2012
Gone but forever in our heart
by: Nancy

Nettie I'm so sorry for your loss,it's been 8 months since my husband passed and I still feel the same as I did then. I have 4 daughters and only one calls me,people don't understand the pain, emptiness, heartache we experience from the loss of a soul mate. I looked for stages of grief and found this site, we can help each other here. I'm also reading an incredible book that may help you too.
I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye
surviving, coping, healing after the sudden death of a loved one.
Author Brook Noel & Pamela D.Blair, PH.D
a friend loaned it to me and is very insightful, an incredible book.

Mar 20, 2012
by: Janet

Hi Nettie.

I am sorry for your loss. I can understand your pain and frustation. I am at 4 monts and 19 days and it is not an easy journey.

Be gentle with yourself, true yourself, and remember that the children need you. I understand the pain and loss you are dealing with and we have a long journey ahead of us.

Do your husband proud. Be kind to yourself, be gentle and above all nurture yourself. Time does heal the pain but remember the good times and all that you had.

God Bless You. May He hold you gently in the hollow of His hands. Thoughts and prayers are with you and I am here for you.

Mar 19, 2012
Its Is Hard
by: Kevin

I lost my wife of 30 years to cancer on Feb 5th 2012 very recent as is a hard journey and I pray you grieve to a appropriate healing...that is what I pray for myself as go through this...

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