My best friend, Husband and Daddy

3 weeks ago I lost the best friend I ever had in a tragic farm related accident. I am so lost right now and trying to stay strong for our 2 little girls, (4 and 1). We were married for 7 years and had a wonderful life. He had worked so hard for everything he ever had. Along with our 2 girls, we have a cattle herd that I now have to manage. Everyone keeps asking me what I am going to do, with the house, work, cows. I don't know what to tell anyone. I want the answers to be sitting in front of me. I know if I listen to god and my heart things will turn out ok, but it is so hard.

I try to keep myself busy so I don't have to think about the loss we all suffered, but I'm sure that is not healthy. I think someday I am going to lose it. I want to keep my chin up and stay strong for the girls but don't know how long I can keep it up. Everyone has been so helpful and generous. I know there are many people out there praying for us, but nothing is easing the pain.

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Mar 16, 2012
Be Strong When You Can
by: TrishJ

I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in a state of shock right now and any major decisions should be put off as long as possible.
It doesn't seem fair does it? How could God let this happen? Those were my thoughts after losing my husband. We never really get over our loss but we do learn to live with things. It's not easy. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
Talk to God. Ask him for all the help you need. Depend on those around you are are able and willing to help.
Most of all love those girls. You have to take care of yourself and your needs in order to watch over those two little gifts. They are part of their dad and the most precious thing in your life.
Cry often. Scream if you need to. Don't expect too much from yourself for the next several months. You are in recovery. Be gentle.
Blessings to you and your children.

Mar 16, 2012
This is all hard
by: Steffy

I lost my Husband 2 months ago, and I am pregnant with our first child,

I had to sell our home and move in with my father in law.
Everything happened so sudden that I just dont understand.

The pain of losing a husband is the worse pain I have ever experienced.

My baby is due today March 16th but he is going to be late-- I dont blame him I wouldnt want to be born into this world either.

Im scared to be a mother to my child with out Cody my husband- He was everything to me,
My high school sweetheart my bestfriend my everything.

He got killed Jan 16 2012-- I miss him so much everyday he was only 21 years old, so excited to be a father,

Life is cruel but people keep telling me stay strong you are holding his child, a piece of him the most important part of him.

This hurts though I dont have advise I just know that this is all hard and talking and venting makes me feel better at times.

I feel like ever since Cody passed Ive been walking through my life like a zombie, I cry everyday and dont understand how something like this can happpen.

WE had it all for being so young, NOW there is nothing left but pain and a little baby boy who will be born anyday who will never meet Cody and how incredible he was.


Mar 16, 2012
God is the way
by: Christine

God is the only one to get you through this, and your whole life. Look up Focus on the Family help in your area.

Mar 15, 2012
So Sorry
by: Anonymous

Your story pains me. I lost a son suddenly 5 weeks ago and his wife is pregnant with their first child. I have watch his wife's grief and it is painful to watch. They were best friends.

Please find someone that you can "lose" it with. That does not make you weak. You, like my daughter-in-law, are getting up every day and doing what you have to do. That is strength. I also allow myself to lose it with my best friend, and I allow my daughter-in-law to lose it with me.

You will be in my prayers. And, please come here to let out your pain and angst. I'll check back.

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