My Best Friend

by Cindy B

I loved my Mother dearly. After my father passed away, my husband and I moved in to look after Mom. It was a win-win. We needed a place to live and she needed some help with the upkeep of the house.That was 10 years ago.We had many bumps along the way, but our relationship just became stronger. In January 2011, she was diagnosed with lung cancer. At 84 years of age, we decided that rather than suffer through awful, life grabbing treatments, we would instead forego a treatment that promised to be worse than the disease itself, and simply have the best ride we could with the time we had left. All through 2011, we did whatever it was she felt like doing, as 2011 passed into 2012, she started to show the signs of the fight she had on her hands. We faced it together and I fought right along with her,in Dec. 2012 she had become ill enough to be admitted into hospital. I literally, with the help of my sister had to talk her into going. Little did we know at the time, that she would not be coming home again.On Boxing Day, Dec.26/2012 her fight was over, and I was devastated. Slowly I am beginning to heal. I tell myself daily that she is no longer in pain, it helps, but it does not bring her back. I am trying very hard not to feel so alone, but it is so hard.I expect I will continue to have good days, and bad days, but I know I will never forget her and I will always cherish the time that I was allowed to have her to myself. She was a remarkable lady.

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Oct 10, 2013
my best friend
by: Nadine

Cindy, I also lost my mom to lung cancer. She was 82 when she was diagnosed and also decided to forego chemo and radiation. She also had bone cancer and her condition was terminal. I remember for about 6 months or so prior to the diagnosis she complained of shortness of breath and just not feeling right. She made so many trips to the doctors trying to find an answer. It still makes me sad to think about it. I will never know why they didn't find the cancer earlier as she had a history of breast cancer. But that is beside the point. She had her good days and bad days until she passed away in 1995. So i know the pain of losing your mom to this awful disease. I hope you have a good support system and people to help you in this trying time of grief. That is important. It took awhile but now i have mostly good memories of my mom. I wish you well.

Oct 09, 2013
My Best Friend
by: Doreen UK

Cindy I am sorry for your loss of your Mom to lung Cancer. My husband of 44yrs. lost his battle with lung cancer 17 months ago. I nursed him for 3yrs.39days with this disease that is so hard to diagnose and almost always claims lives. My husband worked with Asbestos so his cancer started in his 20's. Working hard for his family whilst a slow growing tumour from the asbestos dust took 40yrs to develop into a terminal tumour. It is inoperable and incurable. Due to the cancer being in the lining of the lung which is inoperable. just hearing the news was the worst day of my life. Just to know your loved one is going to die and you can do nothing to help them is the worst feeling ever. My husband was 65yrs. of age and died 16 days before his 66th birthday. Sometimes it feels as if it didn't happen because he worked away from home a lot in his 47years working life. He lost his retirement. The best way to go through this grief is taking one day at a time. You will have good days and bad days. But the Loneliness is hard. I was wishing my husband could have had 20 more years as his family have longevity. But it was not to be. I wish you better days ahead.

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