My Big Brother Is Gone

by Dana
(North Carolina)

My brother died of Mesothelioma, a type of lung cancer due to exposure to asbestos. He passed away within 2 weeks of the diagnosis. Before being diagnosed, he was losing weight and had pain under his right rib, but all the x-rays,ct scans were negative.

I loved him very much; why did I love him so? Because he loved me first. I was the little sister, born when he was 12 years old, so all I did was respond to his love. He taught me to dance, ride a horse, and shoot a gun. We rode motorcycles to visit our favorite aunt and uncle, and ate lots of Tex-Mex together.He took me on "coke dates", whistled at me and told me how pretty I was in my new dress or shoes, and was protective of me.

He was a better brother than I was sister. I wish I had called him more, written him more, and told him just how much I appreciated all his acts of kindness. I wish I had told him how I would never forget him, and why. He was my only sibling, and he deeply loved our parents. There is no one who can ever take his place.

I made reservations within the week of hearing about his disease. Flying and then driving to his west Texas town, I missed getting there in time to say goodbye by a couple of hours. My heart is broken.

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Sep 05, 2014
My Big Brother is Gone
by: Doreen UK

Dana I am so sorry for your loss of your Big brother, to MESOTHELIOMA. A disease that is supposed to be rare, aggressive, inoperable, incurable, and terminal. It takes between 40-60yrs. to develop.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. to MESOTHELIOMA 2yrs. ago. He cut asbestos on the power saw as a young carpenter in his 20's. He was spot on for the 40yrs exposure to this disease. I nursed him for 3yrs.39days before he died. This is a devastating type of cancer that caused my husband great pain. He died in severe pain that was not managed by the health team due to lack of funding and resources. I had a horrendous cancer journey with him. He died at age 65yrs. He did not get the chance to retire and enjoy the life he had earned. It is not uncommon for the wives to die before their husband's as they shook out their husbands clothes before putting in the washer. Any fibres could have entered their lungs and started this disease. I live in the U.K. and this disease of MESOTHELIOMA is increasing. More people are dying of this disease. Our TV networks are now incorporating MESOTHELIOMA in their programming. The best way forward is by TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME.

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