My big brother no last goodbyes

by B

My brother was 28 he had 4 beautiful children. One saturday morning 4 weeks ago his best friend who he lived with went to wake him to find he was gone. A post mortem couldnt determine a cause of death. Not knowing why my big brother left is so hard and his children miss him terribly.there were no warnings or last goodbyes, I hope he didnt feel alone in his last minutes as I will always love him. Why is life so cruel?

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Oct 12, 2012
My big brother no last goodbyes
by: Doreen U.K.

B I am sorry for your loss of your very young brother suddenly. What a tragic unresolved Death. Four children left without a father. Life is CRUEL. It is very painfull to not have had some exchange in way of Good-bye. Life snatched away so suddenly without warning. It is very DEVASTATING. It will be very hard going on in life knowing you will never see him again. You may benefit from seeing a grief counsellor for support from a sudden death. Surround yourself with supportive family and friends who will be there for you in evey way you need this support.

Oct 12, 2012
So Sorry by Anonymous
by: Doreen U.K.

I am so sorry for your loss of your brother. I am also sorry for your loss of relationship with your mother and sister. Every family has disagreements and this does affect our grief. What happened to you was very cruel indeed.
I was my mothers favourite daughter. I stayed away often so that my sisters and one brother could get the attention they needed as they felt left out. 9 years ago my mother was ill with heart trouble and everyone went down to see her. My younger sister by one year could have picked me up and taken me but she made some excuse that she had no room in the car or it was out of their way. The next day my Mum died. I was the only one who did not get to see her. I was angry for some time as what she did was very cruel. I did not CONFRONT her about this. I didn't see the point of being ostracised for speaking out.
In March 2009 my husband was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. I nursed him for 3yrs.39 days. This sister became my strongest support. She would buy little gift that were appropriate and encouraging. She knew the right things to say and do. She was MY ANGEL. When Steve died all my sisters were very supportive and brought food to the house and cooked meals and everyone was fed and looked after. Everyone helped with the sorting out of all the paperwork and the funeral arrangements. I felt strongly supported. Everyone sprung into action when needed. Whatever disagreements that were around just MELTED and everyone DID THE RIGHT THING. This is what should happen in families. Every bitter feeling put aside and LOVE SHOWN. I almost made the same mistake of not letting my favourite ESTRANGED daughter know her father was dying. My sister's husband went behind my back and let them know. I was ANGRY about not having my feelings respected. In the END I realised I would have made a fatal mistake for ever that I could not get back or be UNDONE. The RIGHT THING WAS DONE. And I couldn't see it for my disappointment of her got in the way. There was bitterness shown by my daughter over the funeral changes, done to please different members of my husband's family. There are serious fractures that need to be HEALED.
I hope that someone in your family throw you a lifeline and DO THE RIGHT THING.

Oct 12, 2012
so sorry
by: Anonymous

I know exactly how ur feeling I've recently lost my brother whom I love dearly,a family disagreement has made my so called mother and so called sister not to inform me as my brother passed away,I found out by phone call 9 hrs after he had died that he was gone.I can never forgive them for bein so spiteful x

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