My dad died, then 2 1/2 weeks later my mother passed awy


(Australia)

I just have no idea how I should feel after losing both my parents within 3 weeks of each other. My father, aged 88 wasn't really sick, just passed away one morning in his favourite chair. My mother took it extremely hard, as we all did. Then, the unexpected happened, my mother aged 80 passed away 2 1/2 weeks later. She was never sick a day in her life, well, that's what we all thought. Apparently she had acute leukemia.....the autopsy results are not back yet. She would not have known she was so sick. She was my fathers carer, and I think she was so involved taking care of him she didn't realise her tiredness was actually due to having leukemia. Never visited a doctor, just went to bed one night and friends found her semi conscious in her bed. She was rushed to hospital but died 4 hours later.....we never made it to be with her as we live 3 1/2 hours away. Just how do people deal with this sort of loss? I feel empty, cheated and extremely sad all at the same time. I know it's only early days, but I don't see how I am ever going to get over this.

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Apr 14, 2014
age 88 . . .
by: Anonymous

I am posting in response because my own father just died April 1, 2014, and he was 88, but he had been ill ever since my mother died in 2006. He almost died about a month after my mother, but I pulled him through, and I often wonder if that were best for him; in other words, maybe he should have gone then. This seems to be all too common, when one spouse dies, the other follows. There are no words of comfort. You are miles away from where I am in the U.S., but I am right there (and here) with you, part of the family of grief that is universal and knows no race, no borders, and no tongues because there are no words anyway. I understand about feeling cheated: that is exactly how I feel. I have had to make an earnest effort to really take care of myself – try to eat, sleep, and live through the days – and this you must do too because grief is hard on the body as well as the mind and heart, and it will only be harder if you allow your overall health to be compromised. I wish that I could write something more encouraging, but I feel so much like you that I have no wisdom for survival to share. I only hope that at some point I will feel better than this, and I wish so for you too.

Apr 14, 2014
y dad died, then 2 1/2 weeks later my mother passed awy
by: lerato maake

So sad to hear a touching sorry. Yes its true you have to feel empty inside you but don't give up we serve the true god and the leaving. You will over com this. Prayer is a way of reminding ourselves that we are in the presence of God. There will often be times in life where we face stressful situations, such as difficult times . It is at these times that prayer can come into it's own. Pausing before an important event, remember that God is with us, asking for his strength and guidance, all these elements can transform the way we approach something.

Apr 14, 2014
so sorry for your dual loss of your parents
by: Anonymous

My heart really goes out to you and your family.

I also lost my immediate family members pretty close to each other, and yes the pain and grief is truly unbearable.

You must remember to take it 1 day at a time and do not expect too much from yourself as you will need time before the reality truly sinks in.

At first we bargain for more time, then feel shock, then denial and finally acceptance.....so the road ahead is a long one but you will emerge knowing they have found peace, are together again, and in time all of you will again reunite.

God Bless you and it will help if you join a grief therapy group, and that is free at the hospital where your mom passed so please do inquire. It will help immensely, and as for holidays let your heart be your guide.

Right now you need to feel love and comfort, and I pray your family and friends hold you in their arms and are always there for you. Grief has no time table so do not allow anyone to tell you to get on with your life.

God Bless and try and remember as long as they live in your heart, mind, memories, they are still in spirit with you.

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