My dad died young and I have anger at people who live a long life....
(Lake grove, ny usa)
My dad died february 25, 1999 and he was just 49 1/2. He died of a pulmonary embolism and it was instant. It still seems like yesterday. My problem is my boyfriends dad just died this past friday eve and he was 80 1/2 and I just can't seem to find compassion in this. They should all be thankful for having their father for that long. I find this to be torture when I hear of someone losing a parent over the age of 80 when my father was taken way before his time. I can't even listen to conversations about the deceased because all I think is that my dad never got to see or do triples things.
Is this normal to have these terrible feelings and how can I be more compassionate? I'm totally here for my boyfriend (4 years together and the whole time his dad was fading away). Looking to hear from anyone who may be dealing with this too or just anyone with some guidance.