My Dad is Gone but Not Forgotten

by Vicki
(Chicago, IL, USA)

It's been almost 9 months since my dad passed away from lung cancer on April 15, 2011. Although we suspected his illness for years, he was officially diagnosed only 4 months prior to his death. Needless to say, my mother, two sisters and I were not prepared for his passing away. There were so many things I would have told him; I would have held him and talked about the things that were held so tightly in my heart. Although he knew how much I (we) loved him, it doesn't change the fact that he was not conscious when I arrived to spend time with him at his bedside. We were all there with him when he took his last breath - and I haven't thought too much about that moment since that day. Until now. It's all coming back and grief is really setting in ...

I miss you every day, Dad. I wish I could chat with you on the phone about the trials and tribulations that I am having with my own two little ones. I know you'd tell me that it goes fast and to enjoy it - and not sweat the small stuff. It's truly all small stuff when you think about it. It's so hard to let you go, but in my heart I know you'll always be there for me.

I'll always love you, Dad.

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Jan 14, 2012
Never Forgotten
by: TrishJ

I too am from the Chicago area. My husband passed away a little over one year ago at the University of Chicago. We are never ready for their death. I knew in my heart how ill he was but the day it happened I was not prepared. We are never ready to let go.
The thing with grief is you have to go through the bad feelings to get to the other side. We never stop loving the person. It has taken me one year to come to terms with my husband's death. I know his body couldn't last one more day. I know he suffered as your dad did. Neither one of them wanted to leave us. It wasn't their decision.
Your dad will always be with you. He will always be your dad. Cry and let those feelings out. You can't keep them inside. Live your life to make your dad proud. He's looking down. I told my children, "You know how your dad loved to brag. Give him something to brag about up there."
God bless. Just take things one day at a time.

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