My dad the one true love of my life my god

My dad

My dad

I am 38 my dad died of lung cancer two and a half years ago my life has never been the same and never will be,I feel like crying every single day he was my hole world I feel Broken in every way,he lived for ten months after we found out and every day we were powerless to the to the deep deep sadness we were feeling,we spent so much time together before he died and every minute counted but tinged with pain.My dad moved in with me and my family and he was so so strong and positive but lost his battle in hospital,my dad was in love with his family in the most purest way a father could love his family,my dad is the love of my life and my god

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May 09, 2014
Missing Dad so much!
by: Doreen UK

Hi Shirley,
It is not crazy to think your father would never die. This is our human condition to expect life, and that we will have our loved ones with us FOREVER. My husband's cancer was terminal from the outset. BUT. I refused to believe he would die. I watched TV and heard amazing stories of healing. I received mail in the post. Again of people being healed of cancer. I sent out Prayer all over America on God TV for healing. Most books I picked up talked of people being healed and getting a miracle. I believed Steve would be healed. He Wasn't and it was then I went into numbness for a long time. Steve did get a measure of healing inasmuch as he survived 3yrs.39days with an aggressive cancer. Most people died within weeks/months. So I am thankful for this time with Steve.
No one can understand the grief pain unless they have lost a CLOSE loved one. Which is why your husband won't know how bad this feeling of grief is for you. You can't even explain it. It has to be felt to be understood. Best thing to do is talk a lot on this site and express your feelings, OR. Go and see a grief counsellor for a few sessions to take the edge off of this raw grief. You can also keep a journal and write your feelings including letters to your father and let him know through your writing how the loss of him has affected your life and how much you miss him etc. this is also a very therapeutic way to heal from grief. Pamper yourself every day. You will start to feel better. Best foundation to healing from pain. TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME. You will recover from grief IN TIME.

May 08, 2014
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry to read about your father. I lost my father last year, to sudden cardiac arrest and this has been a very hard year for me. I had a wonderful relationship with him - he was a huge part of my family's life and we saw him almost every single day. While I know I am lucky that he lived close by and could spend time with my children, (he loved being a Grandpa), and he had almost 50 wonderful years with my mother, the void that is in our lives is incredibly large. My son still cannot talk about him or his death. Since he died suddenly, there was no time to say goodbye, and at times I think I am still in shock. I will tell you that you are not alone in your grief, and this website is a wonderful place to come for support and understanding. You have joined a group of people who know exactly how you feel and can offer you kind words when you need them. I hope you can find some peace as you begin to heal. You will be in my thoughts, Barb

May 08, 2014
Thank you for your message
by: Shirley

Hi thank you for your message, my dad also had cancer in the lining of his lung and to be honest I know it sounds crazy but I didn't think my dad would ever die, he was 59 when he died and had five grandsons I do get on with life as I have no choice and I also do look foward to things but at the same time the things I do look foward to are always a bit sad for me as I no that dad is not hear so my life is always tinged with sadness, I have a great husband but he can't really understand the pain because he still has his dad he knows I'm hurting but is powerless to help,

May 07, 2014
My dad the one true love of my life my god
by: Doreen UK

I am sorry for your loss of your dad to lung cancer. A scourge of a disease that rips through families destroying the family unit.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. 2yrs. ago to lung cancer caused by working with asbestos. His disease was MESOTHELIOMA. the cancer is in the lining of the lungs and is incurable, and inoperable. He was only 65yrs. of age and had much to live for. He loses out on seeing his 2 beautiful grandchildren who are adorable. Boy 5yrs. and girl 3yrs. He would have adored them and passed on his skills in carpentry on to his grandson. What a tragic loss to everyone. Nothing and no one can ever replace our loved ones. It just makes life feel like "What is the point" Our family adds meaning and value to our lives as we do to theirs and we need each other. This is the one CRUELTY of living. To lose people from our lives. The best way forward is TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME.

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