My Dad was Brutally Murdered When Taking a Friend Dinner

by Monica
(New Mexico)

I lost my Dad on December 10, 2012, my life hasn't been the same since.

First off I'll start off with this, my dad was my hero,a friend, an amazing Grandpa (the best we could ask for). He raised three girls on his own after my mom decided she had better things in her life than us. He made so many sacrifices for me and my sisters. He was a devoted Christian who believed in praying and helping everybody in any way he could. He was a man that would never say no to his grandchildren. He took joy and pride of spending time and taking his grand kids everywhere with him. From the day they were born, till the day he was taken away from us.

On December 10th 2012 at about 11 o'clock at night, I received a call from my sister who still lived with him. She was very hysterical. She told me that my she has tried to contact my dad all afternoon and could not reach him. It was unlike my dad no to answer or return phone calls immediately to us. She told me that she got to work and she was met at the door my the State Police. They advised her that an incident had taken place and began asking questions about my dad. They then advised her that my dad and his friend were shot execution style and the trailer they were in was set on fire. We were told that there happened to be a Deputy in the area that saw smoke coming from the trailer. He then stopped and called fire and EMS to put the fire out. After the fire was put out, they found the 2 dead bodies in the trailer.

On that date my dad had taken his troubled friend who didn't have a car to the Doctor. After he dropped him off he left and went to buy him dinner. When he returned with food, somebody else showed up to his friends house also. They showed up to collect a debt from my dads friend. My dad happened to be at the wrong place at the wrong time. He was robbed and shot 5 times in the head and back.

It kills me to tell the story, my dad meant the world to us. He was our MOM and DAD. It feels like everything was ripped away from us on that afternoon of December 10. The only thing that comforts me is knowing that he was such a man of God, I know where he is at.

We were told that there was 2-3 people involved. I don't know how somebody could be so cruel. Life will never be the same for us and our kids.
He never remarried, his kids and grand kids were his life and he was ours.

On 12/21/12 we were advised that the main suspect in my dads murder case was found dead in his residence. The other one or two remain at large. It is so difficult dealing with all this pain. I hope whomever took our precious dad away is caught and justice is served on these individuals.

My dad is our Guardian Angel now, we miss you more than words can say.

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Feb 20, 2013
prayers for you
by: Anonymous

Monica, my heart is breaking for you. I want you to know that you are in my prayers as you grieve for your dad. I understand what you are feeling because my mother was murdered in November of 2011 by a man who broke into her house to rob her. She was beaten to death. The man is in jail, awaiting trial. I know how painful this loss is to you. Your dad sounds like such a wonderful person. He was helping out a friend and yes, just crossed paths with the wrong person. I have taken comfort in knowing that God's spirit was with my mother at the end to give her peace. You can be sure that your father also received this comfort. He is in a wonderful place now and has no more pain or worries. My faith has helped me deal with my grief, and I also go to see a counselor. I had the support of one of my sisters and my friends to help me through this. I have also cried and cried. It seemed like the tears would never stop, but I didn't hold anything in. I let it all out and I believe this is the right thing to do. Just know that you are not alone, even if it does feel that way sometimes. Sadly, many people have lost a loved one through homicide. Many blessings to you and all your family.

Feb 19, 2013
My Dad was Brutally Murdered When Taking a Friend Dinner
by: Doreen U.K.

I am crying with you and for you and your family who have lost their precious father to murder. Please go and see a grief counsellor. This is important because of the type of sudden death that is so horrific. This is such a tragedy. It is so unfair that a man of your father's calibre, Kind, compassionate, and caring for others was killed in the act of kindness supporting his friend in need.
We are living in an evil cruel world that is why we need our God to come and rescue us from this world that is getting worse. How very sad and tragic. No one should have to go through this pain and loss. Your father was taken from you in such a brutal way that will affect You, your siblings and grandchildren. How can one make sense out of such a tragedy and go on in life unscathed by this tragedy.
I am happy that your father was a Christian. You will see him again when Jesus comes back for us as He promised. Hold onto this promise. It will help you through your grief. May God comfort you all in your Grief and surround you with His loving arms and soothe your sorrow.

Feb 19, 2013
Dear Monica,
by: Pat in Missouri

Your story is horrible. the worst part is the ripple effect, that a sudden death by shooting, has on so many people who are left to have to deal with the awful loss of our fathers, sons, daughters, children, etc. I do not wish to minimize you personal loss in any way. This is the first time I have seen a posting, here, about someone who has lost a loved one to murder. Your story reveals what a wonderful man your father was. Coming to terms with his loss will not be easy. But, never forget what a kind man he was and that he died, in the line of duty. What I mean by that is that he was helping a friend who needed it. He was just like our soldiers in Afghanistan. He was serving his friend. God bless you, dear child. I hope that you can find a support group or some counseling to help you deal with this. Loss is bad enough. Murder is even worse. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please let us know how you are doing. We care because we have all lost loved ones, although not in the way you did. Pat

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