My dad was my mom, too.

by Emme

I was four and my mother became ill. No one mentioned what was wrong with her. For two years, I thought mommy was getting better.
A sunny, warm Saturday in June, the world crashed, when I came in from playing outdoors, only to be told my mother had died. I learned a few years later, she had breast cancer. In the late 04's no one sd the C word.
My dad could always cook, he did the laundry, worked every day. cleaned, ironed and took care of his father and me. My mom knew she wasn't going to live, so she showed him to braid my hair, too.

Dad and I lived alone for many years, when I married we moved to be near him. He was always a loving father and grandfather. He died when I was 32, and I miss him everyday, and wish he could have lived to see his grandchildren grow up.

God bless you daddy, I miss you

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Jan 01, 2013
My dad was my mom, too.
by: Doreen U.K.

Emme, I am sorry for your loss of your dad and mom. It doesn't matter how old we are we will always Miss our parents so much. They were our nurturers. Unfortunately you lost your mom so very early in your life. This lack of understanding and inability to grieve her death may be buried so deep that any more deaths will just trigger off emotions and feelings that you will not be able to deal with. Often when thoughts are buried we can feel deep stress and pain but no memories and this is especially hard to live with. A psychologist/counsellor can work at a deep level and bring to the surface what is buried. Even Grief. It will be Painfull, but the rewards will be worth it. You will feel so FREE. You will feel so cleansed within. It is THE MOST WONDERFUL experience to have our unresolved grief and conflicts just evaporate in counselling. To bother us no more. To be able to go on in life as A NEW PERSON. I hope that you will be able to have the support you need, and that you will feel a sense of FREEDOM from your buried grief and sorrow of your loss of your parents. Your dad did an amazing job in nurturing you to become the woman you are today. You seemed to have lacked nothing. Because my husband worked away from home a lot I had to be Mom and Dad. My beloved husband died 8 months ago of a deadly cancer which was incurable and inoperable. I MISS HIM SO MUCH!

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