my dad went sudden :(

by Elle

My dad died sudden 10th march 2014. I spoke to my dad in the afternoon and 2 hrs later hes gone. I feel completely numb and lost. Im a daddies girl and feel like the world has been blown to bits.

The left ventricle of my dads heart failed and deteriorated and blocked, heart disease and hyper tension.

I cannot really talk much right now because so many thoughts and questions are flying through my mind. Why did this happen? Why? People have told me to stay strong but its impossible as im not made of steel. Losing a parent is the most toughest thing in the world. It changes everything and changes you as a person.

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Jun 01, 2014
Lost my dad one year ago today
by: Anonymous

Hi everyone,

I lost my Dad one year ago today. He went sudden. He was the most beautiful, kind, giving, special man you could ever meet. I was totally daddy's little girl. The problem for me is that my brothers and I are left with (even though she lives far away) a crazy mom who was always crazy but at least kept somewhat sane with my dad around who always acted as the buffer. So, I feel as though I am left with no parents, like I lost both of them all at once. I am left this year feeling alone, scared, filled constant anxiety and sadness...

May 23, 2014
no warning
by: Anonymous

My dad passed away on April 15th. I was in a different country when I heard the news and could hardly believe it. My family is very close knit and the distance did not affect that. My Dad was a loveable, friendly and very kind. A total joy to be around. He wasn't in the best of health but we didn't expect this to happen. I textexed him that morning and a couple hours later he was gone. It still feels like a dream and pains seeing my mom, bro and sis suffering. I miss him soo much and feel as if my life has changed completely. My mind constantly rejects the idea that he is really gone. Every day seems so painful to face

May 20, 2014
Lost my dad to brain cancer 17 March 2014
by: Shaida

Hi, I'm so confused, angry, crushed, ,my pallet goes dry, my inside feels like a thunder storm building up inside. I can't sleep, God only knows this pain. Can I make it? My dad was diagnosed with brain cancer June 2013, stage 4. What a shock! I work & live in Brunei & my family lives in South Africa. December 2013 when I was home my dad, my kids & the family had such a wonderful Xmas. On 2 March 2014 my sister summoned me to return home coz dad's not doing well. I landed in South Africa 6 March 2014, dad seemed fine for the 1st week, the 2nd week her started deteriorating, it was as if he was just being strong for me. My sister, mom & I cared for him. That faithless Monday morning @ 07:45 on 17 March 2014 as I was holding my dad's hands I could feel how his soul was leaving his body. He died so peacefully. A day I will never ever forget. I'm back in Brunei but things are just not the same any more. I have my husband & youngest daughter here with me, the middle daughter will be off to uni in end July & my son is doing 3rd year uni back home. I'm here but I'm not here, my family is feeling it. I just don't know any more, crying day & night! :-(

May 06, 2014
My Dad
by: vicky85

Same here my dad died 16th March this year..suddenly...

Here if you need to head and heart ache so bad xxx
Thinking of you xxxc

May 04, 2014
A little step a day
by: Anonymous

I'm sorry for your lost. I lost my dad 3 months ago due to the same reason too. I'm away from home due to studies that time and can't even be there when my dad was cremated. Till now I still find it hard to cope with the pain. It just sets in everytime, out of nowhere. Lots of people tell me to stay strong too. But its really not easy. The pain will never go, it will just form a scar and we have to slowly learn to live with this scar.

Apr 03, 2014
God will never fail us
by: Buyiswa

Elle,I am in the same sad and difficult situation to understand I also lost my Dad on the 8th March 2014 still cannot take it,the house is so empty and my mother is lonely its so sad, questions we will always have in our minds with no answers because we lost our dearest mentors, may their souls rest in peace, I agree with the writer who said she does everything for her Dad, May God bless you and your family

Apr 01, 2014
Dear Elle,
by: Anonymous

My heart breaks for you and your family. I know exactly how you feel. My father went the same way on January 14, 2013. He was fine one minute, and gone the next. I was also a Daddy's girl, and I am completely lost without him. Having survived this first year, I will tell you that while it will never get better, it does get easier, and you will get through to the other side. I have so many questions, so many thoughts, but I have slowly learned acceptance. The hole in my life will be there forever, but I am trying to live a beautiful life for my Dad. I understand how you feel right now, and it is so, so hard. Be kind to yourself and take things one day at a time. I wish you comfort in the days ahead. Hugs, Barb

Apr 01, 2014
by: Anonymous

I am sorry and I know its very hard to be okay. I also lost my dad on the same day due to the same reason as your dad:(

Mar 31, 2014
My dad went sudden :(
by: Doreen UK

Elle I am sorry for your loss of your Dad to a sudden death. First you feel numb and can't belief what has happened. For days you will go in and out of disbelief, shock, and crying. Just don't listen to anyone who tells you to be strong. They think they are saying the right thing when they don't have a clue what it feels like to lose a dad, or mum. Grief is different for everyone, but what you describe as to how you feel is normal, painful, and too much to bear. You can see a CRUSE bereavement counsellor for support if things get too difficult for you. The best way forward is ONE DAY AT A TIME, and even ONE MOMENT AT A TIME. Losing a parent is one of the most painful experiences you will ever go through in life. IT HURTS. You will feel confused and so ask WHY? Everything can be normal one minute and then you lose the most precious person in your life. It is going to be a very difficult time for you, your mom and other family members. But just knowing that you won't feel this grief forever helps. I couldn't imagine getting past this pain there was no medication for. It has been 23 months since I lost my husband to cancer and it still hurts. I hope you have good supportive family and friends to help you through this grief journey. Just ignore anyone who gives you the wrong advice. They really don't know what you are going through. May God comfort you all and help you to Heal from your loss of your beloved father.

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