My Dad

by Rhonda Anderson
(Ontario Canada )

On April 18 2014, which was my 35th birthday I lost my dad to cancer. He was diagnosed with the cancer about a week before passing. He was I'll and admitted to hospital on April 1, the cancer wasn't catergorozed as a specific cancer as they couldn't find the exact spot where it originated. He did have some in his pancreas, they think in his bowel as well as other places. We were waiting for him to be released from the hospital as that we his wish, he was walking and talking joking and laughing and within a matter of 48 hours he went from that state to the state of continuous sleep. My brothers, myself and my dad's wife and step daughter as well as a few of dad's siblings and my 90 year old grandmother surrounded him as he took his last breaths and passed away. It has not been the same without my dad, I miss him beyond words!!! I think about him everyday, I want to call him and can't. Tears fill my eyes when I think I will never get to hear his voice again and my children won't get to see him (they are only 2 and 10). I am wondering if this feeling of sadness will ever not feel so much to deal with.

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May 28, 2014
our dads died on the same day
by: chantal smith

Our dads passed on the same day. My dad fought cancer for six years.however he shot himself in the head after having a small argument with my mom. I was the last to speak to him or see him. The pain is unreal. No one will ever understand. I feel completely alone.

May 26, 2014
My Dad
by: Doreen UK

Rhonda Cancer is a disease that claims so many lives every day. My husband of 44yrs. died of lung cancer 2yrs. ago His cancer was terminal and grew inside him 40yrs. from cutting asbestos in the workplace. The fibres lodge in the lining of the lung and was incurable, inoperable and terminal. During those initial days of loss the pain is so unbearable that it makes you feel as if this pain is going to last forever. You can't imagine anything changing in how you feel as it is such a crushing grief. The secret to coping is TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME. This is how I got through those initial days of loss. I couldn't function for 6 months. I did nothing and I became very insular with grief. It is not a loss that you can explain or understood by anyone who hasn't experienced this. Life will get better in time. Don't make any major decisions that you could regret in the future. I made decisions that I regret and I gave away too much that I could use now. 2yrs. is the average time you will be able to cope with any changes in your feelings and emotions, and be able to know some of the decisions you want to make with a much clearer mind. Life will get better.

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