My Danny

by Laura
(Westmont, IL USA)

Today is day 6. Today's feeling is a sense of overwhelming sadness and dread. How do I do start doing normal things again? How do I go to the grocery store? How do I go to work and plan for the future? How will anything have a purpose? My future was he and I. Now there is no he and I.
He left us tragically and unexpectedly. He was the sweetest, funniest and most intelligent man I have ever known. He enjoyed the most basic things in life; a beautiful sunset, clouds, the sound of raindrops, his children, me, good food, good music, laughter. I think I will need to write more later.

Danny, I love you so much and always will. Please be safe and happy without me. Please help me to find my way again.

My sweetheart. My true love.

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Jan 12, 2012
by: Marilyn

Laura, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and pain.
I am sure you must still be in a state of shock at this point. It's good you found this site early, so you will know what to expect during this grief process. It does not pass in a couple of weeks or months, as many people think.
That's why most of us came here. Our friends and family members think we should just get over it and get on with our lives, but they haven't walked in our shoes and they're not on the slippery slope we're on. Everyone here will listen as long as it takes and as much as it takes, to help you through this. We're helping and being helped at the same time.
It has been 16 months since I lost my husband. I found this site a few months after my loss, when I thought I was losing my mind and my memory was shot. I did some searching on memory loss and Grief Sites popped up. So, I was not going crazy! I just missed my husband and my whole life had been snatched away from me. My first night, reading on this site, made me realize what was going on and what to expect. I didn't like any of it, but at least I knew I was normal and what was going on.
The grocery store was the toughest thing I had to do. I could not shop for one and started crying every time I tried. If you have a loud-mouthed, over-zealous friend or a visiting son like mine, that wants to throw everything in the cart, take them with you. You'll be stocked up for a while and may need to be, when the shock wears off and the depression sets in. I kinda turned into a hermit, after the shock wore off, and didn't go out of the house for months, unless I had to... nothing out there was important to me.
Everyone handles this differently and there is no right or wrong way of getting through the grief. As long as you get through it. You cannot outrun it or mask it or hide from it, as it will be waiting for you to deal with it, when you are ready to tackle it. Just let it out! Cry when you need to or come here and talk, or even babble if you need to. We are all going through this grief process and understand what you are feeling.
You will be in our thoughts and prayers as you make your way through this horrible journey.

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