My Darling nana

by Amie

My nana was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in june 2012, i was pregnant with my second child. They expected she wouldnt live to see my little gorl born but she did ( december 7th 2012) she adores both my babies and always stood by me when i needed her. Thursday i was told that she had 2 month to live and they were moving her to a hospice. Only today i have been told to keep my phone at my side as she could pass away anyday. I dread telling my 4 year old son as he is so closs to her. Im hurting but staying strong for my babies.

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May 11, 2013
My darling Nana
by: Anonymous

My grandma passed away when my baby was only 4 months old. It's been a few years but I still miss her so much. I show my son who is now almost 4 pictures of her and talk about how she got to hold him when he was a baby. I told him that she passed away and she is in heaven.

May 09, 2013
by: Amie u.k

Thanks you doreen for your comforting words, im sorry to hear of the loss of your husband and your father being unwell too. Cancer is a terrible disease and breaks alot of families. My little girl is only 5month so she wont remember my nana but i have many photos i will show her. As for my son he is 4 and very close to my nana. It will be hard to tell him when it happens in the next few weeks but i know it must be done. I will have my partner there to support me through that. At 20 with 2 young children this is the hardest obstacle i have ever hit and life has been bumpy at best.

Wish you all the best and i send love and comfort your way


May 09, 2013
My Darling nana
by: Doreen U.K.

Aimie I am sorry for the place you are in right now about to lose your nana.
My father is dying right now in a hospital. We don't know how long he has. But it is a horrible place to be right now.
I lost my husband 1yr. ago so I am grieving a loss. But I also know what it feels like to be waiting, wondering, watching the clock and wishing you could make time stop so you have it forever.
My husband died slowly of cancer so I had to watch him daily and feel helpless unable to comfort him from knowing he was going to die. Just don't try to be so strong that you don't grieve. Your grief starts now. Not when your nana passes away.
When the macmillan nurse told me "I think your husband is dying." I wanted to punch her and tell her to shut up she has got it wrong. I sat very passive and subdued at his bedside waiting for some miracle that didn't happen. He died of his cancer and left a hole in my heart.
You will know how and when to talk to your children about their nana. Just don't tell them lies or try to shield them from death. This is such a mistake I have seen this has fractured many families. The children grow up and have to live with this forever and some don't get over it. Talk as much as you can to your children. Let them know that Death is a reality and fact of life. I am sure there are books out in Amazon that may help you to broach the subject with sensitivity and for a child. Your children will thank you for it later in life. Many a child has been broken by being overprotected from the death of a loved one. Some have been traumatised by seeing the body in the coffin. Others have been bruised by not being able to go to the funeral and say goodbye. There is never an easy way to do this. There is no right or wrong way. But there is a way that doesn't include secrecy and being overprotective that causes dysfunction. I hope you have good supportive people around you who will comfort you in these difficult days ahead.

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