My Darling Wife Lisa - 8/13/61 - 2/4/2010


(Phoenix, AZ)

July 2009

July 2009

After a 3 1/2 year battle with a brain tumor, Lisa died with me and our three boys at her side, telling her how much we loved her. A model wife and mother who loved us all so well, will be missed more than I can express. She truly was the wind beneath my wings.

Life can be so hard to understand, no apparent rhyme or reason. My trust in God is all that remains. That somehow, as the great orchestrator of all creation, he has a plan and a purpose.

While I am thankful to have loved and been loved so deeply, the question, will I ever be loved so deeply again keeps ringing in my heart.

I had the honor of caring for Lisa the last few months when she needed so much help for everyday things. I treasure those times now, because I know she felt my love for her through it.

I miss you Lisa. I only hope I can do you proud by raising these boys to be Godly men.
I Love You,

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Dec 20, 2010
i get it
by: jen

Hi,
Just read your story and i understand.
My husband died aged 41 of the same, third time round with that awful disease,
I'm getting there where ever that is slowly but with my two teenage girls i will keeping forward. Richard would want me to.

I wish you well in your onward journey,

Jen

Apr 19, 2010
I understand
by: Rebecca

I lost the father of my two beautiful boys a few weeks ago to a tragic reaction to Chemotherapy. He was only 38. He had been diagnosed with rectal cancer only 5 weeks ago. It's just so hard. I can't believe its real sometimes. I hope you and your boys will feel comforted by her sweet spirit. I hope we all will. It feels overwhelming to shoulder the responsibility of raising my boys. I've called their dad's cell phone several times, forgetting he wouldn't answer. I just went up to the kitchen and my oldest son came downstairs sniffing...we just looked at each other and had both been crying alone in our own rooms. The nights are the hardest... I wanted to share a sonnet my son had to write for school two weeks after his dad died. I thought it was very moving. There are never any words to say. It's so hard to be the positive happy leader in the home when you are grieving so much. I hope time will heal all of us. I hope you will feel that loved again.

If silence is the grave of hate sad is!
If crying is the loss of love I feel?
I hate to think a pain so great it?s his;
How come he had to feel the pain and kneel?
His weeping heart did steal the rest of me--
I cannot bear the thoughts he felt while alive.
Did heaven mean to take a soul in plea?
While in scared silence, sadly I arrive.
If heavens gate should open late tonight,
I hope he feels my spirit by his side.
He never knew the strength we had to fight!
In pain and hurt, a sadness kills, I hide.
Will angels sing of magic things I need?
His breath to feel , to touch, to see? I heed.

Love,
Rebecca

Feb 23, 2010
the loss of your wife
by: Anonymous

I am very sorry about the loss of your wife. She looked so beautiful. Obviously you loved her very much and it shows in the picture. I know it has to be hard for your boys too.

It is difficult to understand why these things happen and the pain must be unbearable at this point. You sure do have the right idea about trusting God and raising your boys to be God fearing men, you sure cannot go wrong there.
As for being loved as your beautiful wife loved you I would just leave that up to the Lord. Believe me he will never forsake you. He is so close to you at this difficult time in your life.

I miss my husband so much and have some unbearable moments. But then I say,''Thank you Lord for the years we had together.'' I believe that we have to take things a day at a time and pray before starting each day. It is not easy to get through.

After 3 months I am still dealing with the loss missing my husband but Jesus is always there when I call on him for comfort. Sometimes he sends me straight into the arms of a tenant here who is like an angel, and she holds me while I cry.

Give yourself time and read the scriptures. I think you are a wonderful parent and person.

God bless you.

Feb 22, 2010
FOR WIFE, LISA IN AZ 2-4-2010
by: Anonymous

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY FOR YOU AND YOUR SONS. YOU WILL BE A SURVIVER, BECAUSE OF YOUR STRONG FAITH IN GOD. HE IS IN CONTROL OF THE UNIVERSE. HE CREATED IT AND US.
HE TAKES NOTE OF EACH FALLEN HAIR FROM OUR HEADS, AND EVEN COUNTS THE SPARROWS. WE ALL ARE HERE AT THIS SITE BECAUSE OF A LOSS. YOUR WIFE IS AT PEACE, AND SOMEWHERE, YOU WILL FIND COMFORT AND STRENGTH TO MOVE FORWARD. IT'S JUST BEEN DAYS AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO THINK BEYOND WHAT HAPPENED. TRUST IN GOD AND ASK FOR HIS GUIDANCE IN RAISING YOUR SONS. BLESS YOU.

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