My Daughter

by Linda Oliver
(Thaxton, VA, USA)

Danielle was born with a severe congenital heart defect. She endured 5 open heart surgeries and many catheterizations. This past summer she was diagnosed with and battled fungal endocarditis. About 3 weeks into her hospitalization, they found a pseudo-aneurysm on her left pulmonary artery. The hospital that diagnosed the aneurysm said it was inoperable, another hospital that we had Danielle transferred to said it appeared stable and would be watched. Needless to say, this aneurysm appears have ruptured, and Danielle passed away on November 9, 2011.

I am beside myself in grief. Danielle was a kind, caring wonderful person who could only see the good in people. She loved to help people, she also loved children. She was looking forward to one day becoming a pediatric RN. I still cannot understand why she was taken from me. Even though I have 3 other beautiful, healthy children, there is a void in my heart right now that cannot be filled. I force myself to sleep, and when I wake up, I cry. I cannot eat, when I do, I feel sick. My mind is always on her. Each day gets more and more difficult. Danielle was an amazing person, and she is already missed by many.

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Nov 13, 2011
My daughter
by: Anonymous

I understand your pain. My daughter passed on May 13, 2010. Although I am no longer in the fog I was in the first months after her death, there is a hole in my soul that will never again be filled. I don't think we will ever fill that missing part. There are reasons I carry on. I made a promise to my daughter just before she died that I would be OK and that I would take good care of her sister. So now I honor her memory by doing all I can to make the life I have with her sister the best it can be.

Nov 12, 2011
Mothers and Daughters
by: TrishJ

God bless you ~ I am so sorry for your loss. Yes you do have three other children but nobody can ever replace the one you lost. A mother should never have to bury a child. It seems so unfair doesn't it? It's OK for you to scream and holler at the top of your lungs, WHY ME? WHY AFTER SUCH A LONG BATTLE DID IT HAVE TO END LIKE THIS???? I found myself asking those same questions after I lost my husband who was waiting on a transplant list. Three years of struggle, surgeries, pain, uncertainty, sleepless nights, that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach.....all for nothing. Then I began to realize that every day I had with my husband was a precious gift. God gave him to me for three more years so we could realize how much we loved each other and how devoted we were after 32 years of marriage. The day he died I knew I loved him more than ever. That was the hard part though. Missing him like I do. We tried so hard to make his funeral a celebration of his life but I wasn't ready to let him go. Almost one year later I'm still not ready.
Your daughter was a precious gift. All children are. She will always be your daughter. Always loving you from above. People told me that until I wanted to shout "ENOUGH ALREADY....ENOUGH ABOUT YOU TELLING ME MY HUSBAND IS WATCHING OVER ME FROM ABOVE!!! I CAN'T LISTEN TO IT ANYMORE." After a year without him I realize it's true. Some days I can actually feel him with me. I know he will always love me ~ as your daughter will always love you. Hold on to your precious memories of a beautiful brave girl.
Hugs to you.

Nov 12, 2011
Praying for you....
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry for your loss :( How old was your daughter? She went through so much...she must have been a fighter. I think we mothers suffer so much as we watch our children fight...suffer. And then we miss them with pain that has no words...just an indescribable grief and pain. We wonder how we will be able to go on. I remember someone saying "just do the next thing". I couldn't think... i just did what came next. Do you have anyone you can talk to, cry with, be open with?
I will keep you in my prayers dear one...

Nov 11, 2011
I love you Jimmy.
by: Glori

I understand how you feel. I lost my oldest son on 5/5/11. I have two other beautiful children. Another son & a daughter. Jimmy died in a motorcycle accident. He was 34. My other children are 32, my other son & 27, my daughter. I cry everyday. The events of that day are forever in my head. My husband is a rock on the outside, but in the inside, he is dying the same as me. I thought I was getting better but the 6 month mark really hit home. all the events that happened that day & in the week following the accident seem like forever ago. But it seems like just yesterday he walked in the door, he hugged his mum & we talked. God I miss him soooo much! He was such a lover. So generous w/his hugs & kisses. I hope someday It will get easier...he had so much to live parent should outlive their children. Not supposed to be that way. But we will get through it. We all will, obviously we were chosen by God to go through this. They say he only gives us what we can handle. I hope that is right. Know I am thinking of you & know how you feel!

Nov 11, 2011
i know how you feel.
by: karen

As a mother i know how you feel i lost my beautiful son Josh aged 14 3 months ago.I still cant sleep i go to bed thinking of him and wake thinking of him he is always there. They say it will get better but it doesnt. I kiss hi photo every morning and ever night.I wonder why him he didnt do anything or was never nasty to anyone he was my pride and joy.So i greive with you.Miss him so much it hurts.How old was your daughter .Karenxx

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