My father, my bestfriend.

by Sunil
(Minot ND)

I lost my father on December 17, 2012 to heart failure. He was in the hospital from November 14, 2012 until his death. My father was 64. I feel like he was cheated. After working two jobs for 30yrs to provide for a family and put me through school, his life is taken from him. He will never get to enjoy his retirement or the fruits of his labor. He won’t be around to share my accomplishments or to play with my children (God willing). You only have one father and I couldn’t ask for a better one. I wish I could still talk, laugh and joke with him. Looking back at it all, I realize he was my best friend. He was the only one I could turn to for advice. I am lucky to have a father to care for me for 32 years. Now that he’s gone, I have no one to talk to or want to talk to. I don’t feel myself, I feel weak all the time. I sleep a lot and don’t care about doing anything else. I feel better when I see him in my dreams but sad when I wake up and realize it was just a dream. I have to learn how to move on with my life. I miss him so much.

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Feb 24, 2013
My father, my best friend
by: Doreen U.K.

Sunil you have lost your father and you are grieving which is why you don't feel like doing anything and you are struggling. Getting over the loss of a father will take time. Don't expect too much of yourself. Take one day at a time. It hurts so much, I know. There is no easy way to get over your loss. Try and find someone to talk to. Like a doctor, counsellor, friend, relative. Talking does help to get our pain out of our system.
It is not fair I know. A man works hard all his life for his family and then dies. But this is what father's do. Provide for their family. The sad part is not living long enough to enjoy time he has earned from his working life now to enjoy some retirement. This is the pain I feel also. My husband of 44yrs. died 10 months ago of a deadly cancer and I nursed him for over 3yrs. He was 65yrs. and did not get to enjoy any retirement. He died too soon and left me his wife heartbroken and 3 Adult children and 2 grandchildren he will never get to see grow up and teach them his skills at carpentry and playing the guitar. just 2 of his many skills. It will take time for all of us to heal from our loss.

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