my friend and farther and my hero

by jacqueline
(south africa)

i lost my farther last month in june the 2nd 2014 i last spoke to my dad was on sunday when i asked him if i can dish up some lunch for him as i was living with my dad all my life and looking after him taking him to doctors when his ill i am the bread winner in the home my sisters all have they own lives as i am a twin so does my brother who has his own life i was the only one with my dad my dad passed on the monday morning as i still spoke to him he did not show no sign of illness the sunday and the saturday as well he only slept the whole sunday and its not what he usually does i told my dad im going in late to work and he spoke to me and said to me its useless me going in late to work and i told him i cant stay out as the other lady who is working with me is on leave and i cannot leave the office unattended i eventually got up to wash my self ready for work i made a cup of coffee as i was going to take a sip of my coffee i heard this hard breath in the room and jumped up i thought my dad was snoring when i got to the room i said dad dont leave me now i then ran to the neighbor for help and the neighbor ran to my flat to help we then called the ambulance when the ambulance arried they told me that he has passed on and i was the last person to be with him when he passed on he was my friend and farther i then started calling the family and the undertakers i was all by my self when he passed awy i will always miss him for all the wonderful talks we had and laughs we had together

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Jul 13, 2014
So sorry
by: Anonymous

Reading your last moments with your dad, same as me, that gasp breathing, you know they are going. You experienced the loss of your dad 4 days before I lost mine. Lets just hope our dads are happy & not suffering where they are. My dream is to be in dads arms again one day. Love to you xxxx

Jul 12, 2014
my friend and father and my hero
by: Doreen UK

Jacqueline it is never easy to lose a parent, your nurturer. You were there for him throughout his life and you can be proud of yourself for doing a good job in caring for your dad. I am so glad you hadn't left for work, and then come home later to find him passed away. To suddenly find your loved one has died is the worst feeling the world. You don't have time to process what took place and you go numb with disbelief and then wonder how you will get through it all. You do need support for yourself and now is a good time to find out how supportive your siblings are. Often if you don't get offered support you may need to ask for it. I got good support from my family when I lost my husband to cancer 2 years ago. Had I not had this support I would not have gotten through those rough days. The best way forward is by TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME. This is how I cope each day. Time is all we have to heal from our loss and this healing is very slow.
Do as many good things for yourself so you heal and build yourself up. You will grief for quite a while in stages when you least expect it. Don't hold back your tears and crying as this is healthy grief and will soon get less over time. You will get your life back. We don't grieve forever. May God comfort you and give you His Peace.

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