My gift from god.

by Florence D. Quilliam

First I lost my husband. My son Paul Matthew answered a call from a nurse he ran in to the bathroom with a portable phone saying you have to take this call. The nurse very upset said it is 730 pm you were to identify your husbands body at 530pm.I work at a children hospital and thought she had the wrong number, but no the police were changing shifts and forgot to notified me. paul was 14 years young. Then our only son and child I raised myself after my husbands death. He my son passed away at the age of 22 of a pin hole in his heart.He was only 2lbs and 13 ounces at birth and was a strong beautiful man.shy Kind Loving attached to my joy my life.Florence Deborah Quilliam. I want some part of him,if i cannot have him at all.Thanks

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Feb 08, 2013
Your son
by: Kate

My heart goes out to you,I lost my son in Nov. I lost my husband 19years ago,so I had 2 sons 16 and 20 to finish raising as the only parent. Of course they are our "kids" always no matter what age and need help and advice. My life feel so painful now without my son who I had for 19 years on my own and I bonded with my children in love. We love them so much that is why our sorrow is strong. We miss their loving us back!
They are gone and acceptance of it is tremendous. I have 3 daughters who my husband raised like his own and my four kids try to support me but no one knows the mothers depth of
Hurt and loss . We are all suffering together . Hugs to you.

Jan 03, 2013
My gift from God
by: Doreen U.K.

Florence I am so very sorry for your loss of your beloved husband and also your Son. You have been through so much sorrow and loss.
I cannot believe how extremely callous and downright insensitive people can be to deliver such devastating news to someone on the phone like this. It just should not happen. It sounds as if this nurse was more annoyed that the appointment to view the body was not kept to the time set. How terribly insensitive. It is also such a Humiliating Experience to find out this way that your husband had died. Even the Police let you down due to their process and timetable. It has all worked against you. I hope that someone at least take the responsibility and not just offer you a common apology.
I lost my husband 8 months ago from cancer and He was my Gift from God. I also feel let down and disappointed with some of the treatment we experienced from the medical profession. It is almost as if all the Caring has gone and all that is left is a sort of DETACHMENT from the whole process of CARE. A very COLD CLINICAL experience. I am sorry also for your loss of an Adult Child. Two of the worst losses anyone could go through you have had to experience. Two of the closest relationships a person could have in life you have lost. This is a very painful road of grief you will have to endure.
I have lived in Canada for 1 year 30yrs. ago, but returned to England. I just hope that you are being well supported now in your grief as I well remember the good care that Canada gives. Your experience has been a very bad one. It certainly sounds as if standards have dropped everywhere.

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