My grandads lost

by Emily Frost
(Portsmouth)

I lost my grandad, on the 22nd November. I was heartbroken. I still am. He had testicluar cancer and also two blood infections. He was in hospital for two weeks and one night we got a phone call saying he was very ill, that night we got told it was unlikely for him to survive the night. But e did. Relieved for this I started looking positive as I thought the worst may be over. But it was yet to come. I was home alone the evening my grandad died. My mum and dad got called to the hospital but weren't in time. He left me a note by his bed my parents gave me in te morning. Me and my grandad were so close he was like my best friend. The note read 'I love you very much Emily, keep smiling my little angel, love you' with his signature. The nurses said that was the last thing he ever said. Now my emotions are all over the place. One minute up the next I'm crying my heart out. Help me:(

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Dec 08, 2012
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by: Emily

Don't mind me.

Dec 08, 2012
My grandads lost
by: Doreen U.K.

Jade even if it has only been 7 weeks since you lost your grandad this is not time enough to get over your loss. Grief is different for everyone, and if anyone tells you it is about time you moved on this is not true. No one can enter your mind and body and feel what you feel. If you are struggling you may only need a few sessions with a CRUSE Bereavement counsellor who are skilled in this area to help people cope with the difficulties of grief. It works. I can't tell you how I feel after seeing a counsellor. The longer a person leaves their struggling the longer it will take and they would need more sessions with a counsellor. Death and grief often bring up other unresolved and buried conflicts and often we wonder what is going on and think we are going mad. This is normal and it can be dealt with as a loss. It is amazing how quickly people get back to normal after counselling. If this is not for you then take your time and cry as often as you need to. You can also keep a grandad journal and write out all your feelings and even letters to grandad. this will also get things out of your system and you can heal from grief this way. Whatever works for you. May God comfort you in your sorrow and grief.

Dec 07, 2012
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by: Jade (UK)

I know, that is all people tell me and it drives me crazy! It's been 7 weeks now since I lost my grandad and surprise surprise it is NO easier/better! I don't know about you but because it's coming up to christmas my life seems emptier than ever! I'd give up all my presents this yr to see him again. Hope your okay? (Stupid question I know!)

Dec 02, 2012
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by: Emily

Thank you both, and yes jade you did help me. No one else understands they just say it will get better but it won't! I will never forget him he is in my heart forever

Dec 01, 2012
Recent loss too
by: Jade (UK)

I am so sorry for your loss! I too have lost my grandad recently and was also very close! I know exactly how your feeling and how hard it is to cope! There's not a day goes by when I don't cry. I'm not going to tell you that in time you will feel better because you won't. Somebody told me that time will never heal that massive hole you feel in your chest or the emptiness in your life. Time will just help you to revolve your life around the gap, it will never heal but you will live around it and create a new normal. Not now because its so fresh but in time. So sorry, hope i've helped in a small way

Nov 27, 2012
My grandads lost
by: Doreen U.K.

Emily I am sorry for your loss of your grandad so suddenly. You are facing hard grief and you will feel very broken for some time. You seem to have had a very rich relationship with your grandad. This will make your grief that much harder. None of us have all the answers to why grief hurts so much. We seem to all feel the same depth of pain and anguish as each other. You are not alone. Your grandad must have been feeling very sad that he may not see you again and so sent his love to you. Take it and live your life well and this will honour him. It is sad being parted from our loved ones and they can no longer be part of our lives and share in our lives they way we want or need them to.

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