My granddaughters story....

by Brenda Lawson
(Shelby NC)

My Granddaughter is 12 years old. She loved my Mother who was 87. In December my Mother was put in the hospital an suffered a heart attack. We all went to see her to see how she was doing.She came home in about a week.Some one had to stay with her but she was not eating and we were very concerned this was her last days. I told my family we needed to get prepared because we lived out of state and could not wait until the last minute. My granddaughter told me that I needed to have some faith. So every night she would pray for her great grand mother. On a Tuesday night about 4 weeks later she fell asleep watching a TV program and did not say her prayers. The next morning my Mother had another heart attack, she died instantly. When we told my Granddaughter about her passing she said she had fell asleep and had not prayed for Mama the night before. It has been a month now and she is a mess. She blames herself for her great grandmothers death. She says that if she had not forgot to pray she would not have died. She says that it feels as if her heart has been torn out. She feels so guilty and no matter what i say is mourning the death as her fault. She cries for 30 minutes when she goes to bed and after she has said her prayers. I have talked and told her she has no control over life and death. That God has given everybody a time to be born and a time to die. How he sent his angels down to get her and bring her up to heaven.
That she is not suffering any more and has run the race of life and we will see her again. But all she can think is if she had only said that prayer for her Mama that night she may have lived. How do you help when she is eaten away with such guilt. Will she get ever get over this?

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Mar 09, 2011
by: Anonymous son was in his late teens when his beloved grandfather died. He was torn apart like your granddaughter. I finally found a grief counselor for him and it really helped. It gave him the tools to cope with his grief.

Ironically, four years later I'm the one who needs counseling. That lovely son who grieved so hard for his grandfather died 7 months ago today and he's with his grandfather again.

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