My Grandma: Patricia Hathaway

I loved my grandmother very much. We used to disagree about a lot of things for years then she was diagnosed with Stage 3 Lund cancer. We moved to a bigger house and about a month of living in this house she couldn't walk anymore. Me, my sister, my father, and my mother took care of her and we never really stopped to notice how sick she'd become. When my sister came over (she has moved out) she saw her and just started bawling her eyes out and saying "why does she look like that!" I didn't know what to say because I didn't know what to say because that's when I realized it was only getting worse. When she showed up for a chemo therapy appointment in an ambulance(at this point she couldn't get in the car) they sent her home and wouldn't give her chemo because it was doing more bad than good for her. Later that month, she was hospitalized for a stroke. She couldn't even talk she just layed there and it hurt so bad to see her like this. She had to stay over the weekend and we visited everyday. She started talking but slurred, and she recognized us all. On Monday we were told she would be able to go home the next day, so we were all so excited. We just had one of my dads friends move in so the house was packed. We had to clear everything out and we went to bed happy knowing she would be home tomorrow. I lost my grandma today and was woke up to the sound of my little sister crying her eyes out into my moms shoulder and my dad walked to me and told me she died. She was his mom so he was crying and he hugged me. It was the second time I've ever seen my dad cry. I don't know what I feel, I think I'm sad but I also feel relieved. She was in so much pain and now she can be with her brother and mother. She's at peace and with her maker. I just hope she knows how I cared. I love you Grandma! RIP

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Jul 31, 2014
My Grandma; Patricia Hathaway
by: Doreen UK

It is so hard to lose a close loved one. But as you say it is a RELIEF when someone is suffering severe cancer pain.
My husband died of lung cancer and his pain was severe for over 3yrs. It is so hard to go through the cancer journey with your loved one. But knowing they are safe in the arms of God is a comfort.
Taking one day at a time is the best way forward and you will all heal and recover from your grief in time. Just love and support each other, and talk as much as you need to about your grandmother. Good memories will come back to bless you all. I am sorry for your loss.

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