My Hero never far from my Memory

by Val
(Mobile, Alabama)

I lost my father in 2001. Everyday is still a struggle. I see him or hear him in my mind. I wish he were here with me. It hurts when I need to talk and he's not there. When I need encouragement and understanding, I look at his picture and just talk even write letters.
I play a phone message just to hear his voice.
My mother is ill and I have no one, after almost losing her it was like Deja Vu all over again. No one can replace a parent and a father is the backbone of a family. My daddy was my friend and strength. As a girl, my daddy taught me so much and continued teaching long after I became an adult. Thank God I had him. There is so much I need help with now and he is not here. I wrestle with why he had to die when he did. I feel so abandoned then I cry and scream like it was yesterday. I try to visit his grave on holidays but, it's hard. I look forward to the day when we shall be together again.

My hero(J E S) is gone- but forever in my mind and heart. I miss U Daddy!

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Mar 23, 2013
my dad my hero
by: V

Thanks for your encouraging words, i have seen a counselor and it did help some however, it is my dad that i need the most. Before he died he asked me not to leave him and I didn't now he's gone and where do I go? it helps to be apart of support groups especially since you realize you're not alone. I hope that I can continue to make it. Right now I just want to die. I'm tired, frustrated and anxiety has taken over. I suffer from a disease called AVN which adds to the congestion. My mother has CHF, CA
and being a caretaker again is scary. I am grateful to you for taking time out to support me. Many Blessings go out to you.

Mar 22, 2013
My Hero never far from my Memory
by: Doreen U.K.

Val I am sorry for your loss of your father. WE never outgrow our need to still have our parents in our life. WE will always need their encouragement and wisdom to help us in the difficulties we face in life. And just to be there for each other which is important.
You are probably feeling very vulnerable to losing your mother since she is ill, and you have no one in your life to turn to.
It is a very hard place for any of us to be in when we are at the crossroads in life and we are left isolated and feeling so alone.
You could do with a few sessions with a grief counsellor. You will be amazed at how you will move through life better with more confidence and you will cope better when difficulties arise. I have benefited from counselling and in a happier and healthier place. DEATH hurts us in so many ways that we take a long time to recover from this loss. It could be on going for years for many of us. You could also find a way of building up a network support of friends so that your life will have something of a good foundation for you to build on for your future. Our grief is worse when we are isolated. I hope that you are able to see a counsellor and benefit from this so that you can find that life is better for you and your grief more manageable.

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