My husband left a month ago i am devastated

by Debra James

I knew we had trouble in our marriage for years, we do not have any children together. We tried to have children it did not happen. i was 39 when i met my husband, i had 3 children the youngest a girl age 7. He had 2 boys from a previous marriage. He is the only boy in a family of 3.

I was afraid to marry him because i did not want to get divorced again; our marriage lasted 10 years. he was unhappy. 5 years ago i found pictures of women in his tool box. His father is a player. His friends are all divorced or players. His ex-wife used the 2 boys now 21 and 24 to break us up.

I tried, then i stop trying I went back to college to finish my degree I work full time in education. He did not get along with my youngest child. His sons did not like her either.

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Jul 04, 2012
Man that leaves woman isnt a man!
by: Sherry

Its hard but im in the middle of it and i wont put up with it. Be a strong woman like me. If hes gone its his choice and believe me he will hurt. Im moving onto better things. I will not let a man dictate my life!

Aug 07, 2010
Learn to Love YOU
by: Teresa

My 15 year old daughter called me at work one afternoon. She had just gotten home from school. She said "Mama, Daddy's gone." I told her not to worry he'd be back soon. She said "No, Mama, he took all his clothes!" That was how we both found out her father had moved on to another woman; an internet rendezvous. She was devastated. I was so afraid. How was I going to make it on my own with 3 children, still paying for his oldest daughter's wedding (not my child), sleeping alone?

But, I am thrilled to say, I made it just fine! My daughter is now 22. His daughter still comes to visit me with her daughter, my grandaughter. Yes I had to work 2 jobs for years. Yes, there were times when the washer broke or my car broke down that I would freak out. But I am a strong woman now. I am a good mother and grandmother. I have received 2 promotions and am now management and making enough money to work one job.

He is remarried and just as miserable as he ever was. I learned to LOVE ME! I don't and you don't need to be loved by a man to be worthy. We are mothers. God made us worthy the day he made us a "Mama".

Aug 06, 2010
Maybe for the best?
by: Anonymous

I think all change is stressful but sometimes it is for the best. I left a man that I was married to for almost 30 years. It was hard and I suffered from the loss, but a year after our divorce was final I met a wonderful man and we married. We have been together over ten years now and I have never been happier. I know that the pain is bad now but try to think about all the reasons that it is good to be apart from him. Sort of the: if life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

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