My husband left me for a man-17 years ago. I am still not through grieving.
by L. Haney
(Florida)
I had a storybook marriage or so I thought for almost 10 years. A wonderful life with a husband that loved and adored me and gave me the world. We went on fun trips and had the same hobbies.
One day, out of the blue, he said he didn't love me anymore and he was leaving. No signs, no warning, no clues. I was beyond devastated. When he talked to me a few days later, after I tried to locate him, he told me that my husband had died and he was someone else.
I cried every day for a year. I had to sell most all of my possessions to get enough money to move, as I couldn't afford the townhouse we had. He took the truck we shared, so I had no transportation. We had been in this new town for only 3 months and I had been on my new job for 6 weeks. I loved our old town, our old home and my old job.
Time passed by and I found out he left me for a man. Silly me still kept thinking he would come back to me. Years went by and I found someone else who wanted to marry me. He is wonderful, but after the hurt I experienced, I will never give my heart 100% to anyone.
Today, 17 years later, I still love him. My current husband knows how I feel. As far as the grieving process, I have never gotten mad. He has gotten married recently, to a man, and I'm still not mad. I need to find a way to get angry and finally let go.