My husband of almost 30 years from NH, a great Man
(New Durham, NH)
My husband starting having pain a year ago. He did the pool therapy, shots and medicine to relieve the pain. So he decided to take just take Tylenol or Aleve. So we investigated alternative procedure for pain the neuro stimulator to control the pain. He went in for the temporary which is only five days to try it out and it worked.
The day came Dec 29th for the permanent and developed an embolism that traveled to his lungs and they couldn't take him off the ventilator right after the procedure. It was suppose to be a day in and out surgery. He was in ICU for 7 weeks and developed all kinds of complications from anoxic brain, kidneys shutting down to lungs not functioning on his own. He developed several complications and the outlook was not good.
So here I sit typing you the story...I had to get guardianship so I could make a decision on my husbands behalf because there wasn't any advanced directives(Didn't think we would need it witha day surgery) My brother was with me. At this point I was exhausted and had to attend a court hearing with the doctor explaining what was happening to my husband...the judge gave me permanent guardianship. This same day I went back to the hospital to make the decision to take him off life support. He was only 59 years old.
We have had his wake and he was cremated and today I picked up his urn. One of my brothers stayed with me until a few days ago..he flew back home.
I am grieving and the pain is intense of not having him here alive to talk to and spend time with. As soon as viewed his ashes a deep intense pain came over me and I cried long and hard. I have been crying each day he was in the ICU and to the present. I have an appointment with a grief counselor in a few days, getting massages, trying to get out each day, visited children and grandchildren yesterday. My husband died Feb. 16th.