My husband-my best friend

by Joanne

Well, today is the six month anniversary of my husband's death and I am feeling so many emotions. I am sad, angry and scared. After I cried for quite a while, I started yelling at him for leaving me alone to face the world. People are coming at me from all directions telling me what to do. get your receipts ready for income taxes", " start clearing
out the house so it can be put up for sale" etc. etc etc. On top of all of this, I am still receiving treatment for leukemia. I am both physically and emotionally drained. I have been coming to this web site for several months, but never told my story until now. Thank you all for reading my story. Wishing you all peace. Joanne

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Mar 18, 2012
Thanks Trish
by: Anonymous

Dear Trish, Thank you so much for your kind words. I feel like every time I come to this website I get a hug. (I miss my husband's hugs so much) Wishing us all some joy in our lives. Joanne

Mar 18, 2012
Hang In There
by: TrishJ

My greatest challenge following my husband's death 15 months ago was overcoming the fear. I was (and still am) afraid to venture out and start a new life without Joe. Thirty-Eight years is a long time to wake up with the same person every morning.
I felt like my entire life blew up in my face. I too had many "well meaning" people giving me advice. I felt exhausted.
Given the medical issues you face and the grief you are experiencing you certainly have a full plate. I don't even know what to say except that all you can do is the best you are able to. Don't push yourself too much. Take care of you. Your health is the most important thing to you right now. The rest of the stuff can wait.
I had to overcome anger too (file and extension on your taxes). I wrote a letter to my husband telling him everything I was angry at him for. It really helped me. I have forgiven him for smoking all those years and leaving me to face the this lonely world on my own.
I don't like this new life but do the best I can.
I hope today brings you some happiness. It's the little things that can make us smile.
God bless you.

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