My husband's father
My husband and I were married August 11, 2012 and unfortunatly exactly 2 weeks later his father passed away from a heart attack while we were away on our honey moon. I can tell my husband is not grieving as he should. He pretends he is ok but I know he is not. I lost my mother 3 years ago and there isn't a day that goes by that I do not think of her. I've learned to deal with the pain that never leaves...but I know I'm not the same person as I used to be either. Because I went thru this I assumed I could be his rock like he was for me. But I don't think I'm doing a good job. He is angry alot and sometimes just rude. Alot of times I stay quiet because I know he's grieving and not himself, but sometimes I just had enough and I give in to his anger and argue back. I am wrong for this and I feel so guilty when it happens. I google sites everyday of ideas to be the supportive wife I should be. We moved in to our new home the same week his father passed and I've tried my best to take care of all the details so he can be with his mother and sister. I've asked him to bring his mother to live with us and also if he wants to stay with his mother its ok with me. I understand wanting to be with his mom all the time and I'm ok with that, but he thinks his responsibility is with me as my husband. I've tried numerous of times but he just gets angry so I've left it alone. My husband's birthday is next week and he has told me not to do anything...not even a cake. But I feel like he needs this, like it would be something cheerful for him. I want to make dinner for him and have his family and my family come over...nothing big or fancy or loud. But his insists on nothing...what should I do? Please give me advice on what the right thing to do is? I love my husband too much that I'm afraid of upsetting him again or doing something disrespectful.