My Jimmy 41 yrs old passed on 12/29/08

by Momma
(Stover, Mo)

My son came early on 11/7/87, he was due on 12/28/67. What a perfect son. I just lost him to an unknown heart problem 12/29/08. My heart is broken too. He leaves a fantastic wife
and 2 children who I adore.

How do I help them? How can I go on? It should not be this way.

A mother should not lose a son, a son should say good bye to his mother.

My husband and children have been great to me but I am hurting oh so much. Does my son know I love him so much? Will he try to tell me he is ok? I know he went to heaven because of his kindness to all, his gracious ways, and his love of life.

He always said "life is too short" and his was.

Help me to get thru this time.

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Jan 17, 2009
Not the natural order
by: raynell

You are so right. A Mother should not be called upon to say goodbye to her child. I lost my 41 year old son ten months ago. He was killed in an car accident. A teenager hit him while she was racing. The death of any mothers child is a tragic loss. Hold on to sweet memories. No, your life will never be the same. We have a new normal. There have been moments when I just sat and repeated the name of Jesus, over and over, until the terrible sorrow eased some. Hold on to Gods hand. The Bible says He comforts those who mourn. I pray for all of us who are members of this horrible club.

Jan 07, 2009
I know
by: D

I know exactly what you are going through... I too have lost a son, three(3) years and he was only 27, from a blood clot to the heart. I know how it hurts and you are right: they aren't suppose to go before us.

I think the only thing is that we were lucky to have had them that long. We can only hope that with everything that we have taught them about, their beings and all, they will be in heaven in a heart beat.

I know that my son is my guardian angel, helps me get through some of the hardest times. There are times that I'm back to re-living that awful day and it so sad and hurtful, and seems like I'm not getting out of this one.

But then I think of his beautiful smile and how he loved to make everyone laugh, and the funny things that he would say just make you laugh till you spit a gut. I know he has heard me cry for him and he knows how much we love him and will forever.

I don't know if you have faith? But it helps alot... I will never know what it'll be like to have grandchildren, and a daughter-in-law, cause, he wasn't married.

But you do and you should hold them close to you, cause they are so a big part of your son, and look into those precious little eyes and see your son living in you grandchildren. Love like you never, ever did, and the load will lessen. I will be praying for and for your family as well. D

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