My Love My life

by Linda
(New Jersey)

My husband died 8 months ago I had gone to the dentist and he was alone when it happened our grandaughter found him in our bedroom there is not a day that goes by that I don't cry my heart is broke my life feels like it can't go on anymore we were together for so many years we have 3 children 6 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren yes I am blessed having them but they cannot replace the hurt that is in my heart I don't know how to handle life everyday I keep thinking it will get better but so far it has not my family thinks I need to speak to someone but that scares me, maybe someone could help me with answers I will be grateful to you.


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Apr 11, 2011
Don't Be Afraid To Ask For Help
by: TrishJ

My husband died almost 4 1/2 months ago. It's just been in the past week or so that I'm starting to have a few good days here and there. Grief is a lot of work. I was married for 37 years. I was 19 when I met my husband. He is all I know in life.
I joined a grief support group called GriefShare. You can check them out on the internet WWW.GRIEFSHARE.COM. They are nation wide. If you enter your zip code they will let you know where the nearest meeting is held. I didn't really know if it would be for me or not. I firmly believe in God but sometimes organized religious groups are not my cup of tea. It has been wonderful. Speak up if you want to or just listen. That's for me. Our counsellor lost his wife 3 years ago. She was hit by a commuter train on her way home from work (45 years old~they were married for 22 years). There are only 8 people in our group but it is so helpful to meet with others who are grieving also. It's nice to know that you aren't going crazy ~ that the feelings you are having is a normal part of the grief process.
You can sign up to their daily emails also. They are so helpful.
I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. We are all going through it on this web site. We've all lost someone we love and it hurts. The pain and loneliness can be overwhelming at times. Everyone tells me we make it to the "other side" of grief with a lot of hard work. I'm hoping for some peace and joy for you. God' blessings.

Apr 11, 2011
Please read
by: Judith

Linda , please go into the lost spouse /true love section and read, read ,read. You'll find your answers in all the letters form those of us who have gone before you or are going through what you are. all of them will be expressing your feelings and thoughts. You will find comfort in knowing we all have felt the same way. It's unbearable at times. Mostly you will find support.

But if you find yourself unable to move forward then it's best to speak with a professional grief counselor as I do.

God bless you and be with you on this horrible road to recovery.

Apr 11, 2011
the journey
by: Zoe

First we all feel your pain, we are on the same journey in different stages. I understand how you feel, when I lost John, I have two grown children and a granddaughter. They did not matter, they could not help, or comfort me... they tried, but this is a pain that you have to, unfortunately go alone. For each of us it is different, yet the same.
It has been a year and three weeks since I lost John, I still cry, almost every day, I still talk to him, I miss him with all my being. BUT, you do work through the pain you feel, it becomes,....manageable..
Do not be afraid, you are not alone, we are here with you, come anytime.
and remember, this journey is one of inches, not miles
and it starts with
one breath, one step, one day at a time

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